Question: I am fairly young, 23, and I've been hooking up with this guy for 7 months now. When we started hooking up he stated that he didn’t want a girlfriend, and he still feels the same way. Recently I told him that I was developing feelings for him.
There's a new book out about love, sex, and relationships called The Normal Bar. It's likely to be a best seller because most of us tend to be curious about how we are doing in the bedroom. We wonder if we are normal. Do other people feel like they don't have time for sex? Do other women get easily distracted during sex? Do other people feel like they have to beg their partner for sex?"
If you are just experiencing the physical actions, the bump and grind, the sweating and huffing and puffing, you and your partner are truly depriving yourselves of the amazing gifts that you can share when you make love versus just having sex. Sure, there can be a good release from the pressures of work and life in general if you reach climax, but the benefits of the physical act are brief compared to what can be gained from opening your heart and experiencing your intimate activity with your emotions, too.
A few months ago, I wrote a column about three things that men hate. It was meant to illuminate those things that men generally feel negatively toward. However, it may have erroneously created the impression that guys are discontented with their lives and possess a primarily negative world-view. And honestly, nothing could be further from the truth. So, in the interest of fair and even coverage of the mind and motivations of the male of the species, I want to explore the other side of things. I’m talking about those things that men pretty much universa
Make your Valentine’s Day about love in general instead of just about romantic love. It’s your holiday and it's possible to adjust it so you feel strong instead of weak, happy instead of sad, loved instead of lonely. You have a choice. Option 1: You can choose to whine and cry with negative, bitter single women and justify why you're happy to be single so that you may at some point believe it yourself (I realize there are some of us who really are happy single) or commiserate as to why all men are the s
I recently discovered the work on Alison Armstrong – who for 15 years has been honing her message on the important differences in men and women that manifest in the heterosexual marriage in typical and often frustrating ways. Her wisdom is found in the freedom that comes when we understand each other instead of blame and accuse each other. Last week I was sharing some of these ideas with a small group of grad therapy students. One of the men who is newly married, lit up and said, “Oh my gosh, that happene
As a woman, body image issues have drifted in and out of my life for as long as I can remember. They're that little albatross I can't quite shake: Every time I squeeze into a pair of jeans or put on my swimsuit for my daughters' Saturday morning lessons, every time I turn sideways to see my reflection in a mirror or compare myself to someone beautiful. They're the questions that tumble around in my head: Am I old? Am I fat? Am I pretty? When my daughter started asking the same questions, I knew it was time to break the cycle.
Question: My question is a little unique. I am considering remarriage to a wonderful man, however; I have a daughter who is legally blind, and she has a beautiful 3- year-old daughter. If I remarry, I would be moving out of state. My daughter is not anywhere near being self sufficient and I am not going to just abandon her. My fiancé has said that he would wait as long as it takes for me to help my daughter become independent. Neither my fiancé nor I have plans to break up if this process does not move as fast as we had hoped.
As I have pointed out many times before, men are visual creatures. We see something, and if we find it to be at all sexually appealing, we are apt to become aroused. Consequently I think most would agree that sight is a primary sexual stimulator for the male of the species. What may surprise many people is that the sense that stands second-in-line for the title of “most likely to create a ruckus in our lower regions” is…sound. Sure touch is important to us - but that requires active participation
Question: I have a question about men being interested in watching transsexuals on a porn site and then having sexual dreams about penises. My boyfriend who is straight had a relationship with a transsexual about six years ago and still keeps in contact by phone. This issue has come up as it's interrupting our sex life since he'd rather watch she-male porn on the internet and jerk-off than have sex with me.
The age old habit of people pleasing is not dead. Women are still trained to play nice, or run the risk of being rejected, in and out of the bedroom. Is your favorite positon people pleasing style? If any of these scenarios ring true, you might just need a polite power adjustment. You feel guilty because your orgasm is taking too long. Playing nice rarely has rewards, in real life. If you don’t show you matter, how will your lover respect your needs or get good at making you come?
Question: I wanted to ask? In regards to anal play: My husband and I use to do it when we were younger. I still enjoy it sometimes, but it can hurt and even make me bleed a little? Are we just too old to enjoy that particular form of play? ...Angie
Jennifer Aniston famously accused Brad Pitt of not having a 'sensitivity chip' after their break-up. He had made a few press worthy decisions that appeared insensitive and hurtful towards their relationship and to her. How can you determine if someone's sensitivity chip is properly installed?
For some people, the idea of being in a social setting is comparable to a torture treatment. The anxiety and the pressure to talk one on one or to a group leaves a select few in sheer panic. Understandably, this can create more awkardness and ultimately, shyness - the exact opposite of what was intended. Here's a few tips to help with being comfortable in a social setting.
Question: I have been married for nineteen years and I was wondering if you know what I should do. The problem is that my husband always ignores me when he’s watching TV - no matter what is on - even during commercials. What can I do to stop that? I feel so useless and unwanted. ...Marie
Despite the phenomenal growth of the internet as a source of information, entertainment, social networking and product marketing, few businesses have profited more than “adult entertainment” sites – in other words: Porn. Websites that appeal to the voyeuristic tendencies in men, consistently rank as the most popular and lucrative web-based destinations. And why is this? Because, like it or not, guys are very visual, and we love to see naked women engaged in sexual situations with men or (even better) ot