Are you resisting letting men help you or do nice things for you? As I’ve said time and time again, letting a man do for you – especially since you don’t neeeeeed him to – is the greatest gift you can give him and…in turn…yourself.
WOMEN AND DATING
I’m always asked “where can I meet men?”
I think looking for a good man is a lot like looking for a good job.
30 minutes. That’s about how long you generally have to “get to know” a man before deciding to have a cup of coffee or date with him. You meet online, or at the local bank, and that’s about it.
Yesterday I wanted to quit. This is too hard. There are days things seem to be clicking and I’m finally getting it…marching boldly toward my goal.
Following our GGNO Club’s Virtual Man Panel last week I decided to keep sharing “from the horses mouth.” Here is a response from “Drew” to an article I posted the other day. Drew seems very thoughtful, yet seemingly frustrated by his online dating experiences. (Sound familiar ladies?) Thanks to Drew for taking the time to help us out here. Warning: read the entire stream before you get all in a tizzy about what he’s saying. He makes some excellent points that will help you find a man. Drew: “You’re the star in your story.” While this is a nice thought for women as an esteem-boosting affirmation, it could be taken way too far. As a man who reads so many female profiles online, I already see plenty of the “You’re the star in your story” point of view from women.
Last week a smart, thoughtful woman left a comment on my post about Dating the Somewhat Disappearing Man.
I get asked this question constantly. Women who are dating want to know this; especially women who are divorced and over 40, and haven’t been dating for some time. They also want to know how they can tell if sex is all he wants.
Why is it that when we date — even at 40, 50, or 60 — we can become an alien woman from planet WTF? If you’re anything like I was, it’s sometimes difficult to recognize yourself when you’re in the presence of a hot, nice, or simply available man. The beliefs and habits of our 25 or 30 year old can be hard to shake. Here’s what I finally learned, that I want you to know: You are a grownup woman. You know who you are, what you want, and you’re in charge in the other parts of your life, right? Well, you’re that same smart, kind, lovely woman when you date! You don’t have to settle with a man who isn’t worthy of your affection or attention. You don’t need him unless he’s adding to your already great life. You don’t need to change everything about yourself; real grownup men looooove the woman you already are…if only you’d show that woman to him.
Rejection sucks. There’s no other way to say it. When he doesn’t show interest, doesn’t show up, or breaks it off after a relationship develops; it’s ugly and icky. No doubt about it.