A new haircut or massage may feel indulgent, but is it actually helping you tap in to real self love and care? Our expert explains why your pampering routine may need a pick-me-up. How do you treat yourself?
WOMEN AND BEAUTY
When one of the most powerful businesswomen in the world strikes an alluring pose for Vogue magazine, we have to ask: is there too much pressure for women to be sexy? Are brains nothing without beauty? An expert discusses the process of loving ourselves for what's inside.
Small animals and children risk puncture wounds if they get in my way. Men who get on the wrong side of these pumps risk injuries I won’t even descibe. And women run the risk of back injury, injury to the small bones in their feet, and being crippled for life. Never mind. Being part of the sexy pack, we wear such outrageously high shoes that we'll choose self-harm over being caught flat-footed.
Let's begin by exploring together what happened to women over the last forty years, and where it has left us today ... When feminism came along, it empowered women to fight for their rights and to stand up for themselves, screaming out that self-love was what mattered most. The supposed love that too many women were living with was without substance and was, in fact, really only oppression. The patriarchal world that had, up until then, dictated their every choice was suddenly denounced as many women ditched their bras, rejected sexual comments, and viewed lipstick and lingerie as frivolous and exploitive.
Men love long hair…on women, that is. No matter what your husband, lover, boyfriend or significant other may say, all things being equal, your guy would rather see your hair long and luxurious than short and stylish. This may not be exactly what you want to hear (especially if you just coughed up a ton o’ cash on a fashionable, cropped do), but it is nonetheless generally true.
In case you missed it, Samantha Brick, whose name even sounds made-up, wrote about how "pretty" she is, and how it leads to constant spontaneous gift-giving by men around her. "There are downsides to being pretty," she wrote. "The main one being that other women hate me for no other reason than my lovely looks."
How many of us have taken off our glasses to look in the mirror, examining the laugh lines that frame our eyes and the parentheses that frame our mouths. It's hard not to notice that some of the outward signs of aging are showing up more and more in your face and your body.
The only time I watch TV is when I'm in the living room when my roommate decides to be a couch potato. Soccer, football, baseball, etc etc--the media seems totally atuned to the male demographic. Is that a problem? I hear a loud "hell naw" from the guys. That's easy to sit back and agree with, especially if you're a guy. But it's hard to discredit the increasing power of media on our way of thinking. Cite interesting statistics here.
Perhaps is not such exciting news now that we live in an era when 8th graders go to Hooters on a field trip, but a new Playboy Club opened this weekend in Mayfair, London. Hugh Hefner first brought a Playboy Club to London in 1966, but it closed after 15 years. The new Playboy Club in London features "bunnies" ages 19 to 40 who'll work in either the cocktail lounge or the casino while they wear Playboy's iconic bunny costumes. And if men's enthusiasm to visit the Playboy Club in any way rivals women's enthusiasm to work for it, Hef won't have to worry: 3,000 women competed for 80 positions to don a Playboy Bunny tail!