A disgruntled husband in Italy filed to annul his marriage after his wife told him she may want an open marriage. No word on how long the couple were married, what context her "open marriage" musings took place and whether the marriage was basically finito anyway, but the Italian court system ruled in favor of the man, the marriage dissolved and the former wife isn't even allowed to receive alimony.
A North-Indian festival, Karva Chauth is where thousands of married Hindu women fast all day in hopes of increasing their husband's life span. According to a blog published on the festival in the Wall Street Journal, wives dress up in colorful clothes with matching bangles and jewelry, sport henna on their hands," and fast until they see their husband in the flesh or photo form.
Self-improvement and I are old pals. At age 11, I decided to fix my thighs (aerobics); at 19, to fix my soul (daily mass). In my 30s, I vowed to fix my mothering (support group, too many books). I've spent considerable hours of my life delving into self-actualization, mindful growth, claiming my authenticity, expanding my horizons, seeking enlightenment, making positive affirmations, eating and being in some zone, and twelve-stepping to some new place that was always just another plateau. I took classes, joined support groups, journaled for peak performance. Then I realized that if I didn't stop the manic frenzy of trying to better myself, at age 95 I'd likely still never know the secret. Lately, I began to ask myself why was I behaving as if only the new, improved person I would someday be, mattered more than the me I was, the me I am, now? What was I showing my kids about judging oneself too harshly, about dissatisfaction as a default mindset? And did I really want my husband to think I wasn't pretty terrific as is? I decided to knock it off.
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Children are most definitely a blessing. They require a substantial investment of our time, attention and resources, but return joy that can’t be measured. However, parents must not lose their relationship in the midst of the overwhelming nature of parenting. Spouses can be intentional about their marriage so the whole family can thrive. After nearly 15 years of marriage, I’m still learning this. Small improvements in your family can make a big difference. Don’t feel guilty when you are taking time for your marriage. Remind yourself that you are benefiting your children as well. The alternative is to do nothing, and continue the almost imperceptible drift apart.
You've met his friends; he's met yours. Now it's time to add fruity cocktails and mix. Short of introducing your parents to his, combining your two sets of friends—especially if they exist in very different worlds—is one of the most nerve-wracking milestones in a relationship. And since summertime is party time, it's probably going to happen in the next month or so. Here are a few steps you can take to make sure it's not a complete disaster.
Marriage isn't some simple happily ever after. Sure, there are those happy moments, but there are the other times when you need to make sure that you aren't the only ones throwing knives at each other over the laundry. For those moments and for the happy ones, we have a list of top 10 tweeps, who tweet about marriage. And while we are on the subject, if you aren't following Traditional Love on Twitter then get on it! We tweet marriage news and our latest posts.
The two of you should do everything together; work out every disagreement (without actually fighting); spend every night in the same bed; and never, ever be bored. Say what?! These and other so-called “rules” for marriage need some serious debunking. And it’s not just because rules your mother may have passed on are outdated; some may be downright damaging. In fact, “breaking some marriage ‘rules’ may be the best thing you can do for your relationship,” says Barbara Bartlein, RN, MSW, psychotherapist and author of Why Did I Marry You Anyway? Here are 10 rules you can break with confidence.
The other woman in my life, Sophia, is my 2-and-a-half-year-old daughter. Sure, children can arrest marriages: maybe Mom has to put a career on hold, or Dad realizes he just isn't ready to be a dad, or mom and dad bicker constantly over the cumulative array of child-rearing decisions (diet, vaccines, public or private school?—the list is endless). But it shouldn't be this way. In fact, the more time I spend with my daughter, the more attuned I become to what I love about my wife.
Since I’ve been married for 20 years, I’ve been elected to dig up some of the truths about married life. I had some ideas of my own, but I also polled a bunch of my long-married friends. They told me that over the years, their eyes had been opened—and it has not always been pleasant.
Poll: Have You Snooped On His Email?: Yes, I snooped and it was totally justified! Yes, I snooped, but I'm not proud of it. No, I've never snooped, but I'm thinking about it. No, I never snoop and I never will.
Love and marriage on the best of days they go together like a horse and carriage. On other days, lets just say they work together as well as cream cheese and Cheetos. But through it all, many marriages have thrived. In fact, the average American marriage is lasting longer and despite what Tiger Woods would have us believe, divorce rates are falling. In celebration of marriage and all things love, YourTango has a round up of the top 10 stories and advice about and for your marriage.
No matter how far along the marriage highway you've gone, there are some simple, fundamental rules of the road. Putting them into practice isn't always easy, but it's critical. If you do play by the rules, you'll make your marriage stronger, and the good stuff—fun, sex, trust, affection—will be better than ever.