It seems clear that we are in a time where gender roles and expectations are rapidly being redefined and altered. Although these new definitions are, no doubt, giving both genders some more freedom, are they simultaneously making a handful of people a bit more uncomfortable as well? Madame Noire took to the streets to try and discover just this. They interviewed several New Yorkers to see how they'd feel if a husband, instead, decided to take a woman's last name. You won't believe some of their responses.
You know that passion you have at the beginning of a relationship? When every moment is about getting closer to each other and nothing is more important than seeing that person naked? How nothing else matters, not food or shelter or work? Yeah, that intensity is kind of hard to maintain.
Screen legend Elizabeth Taylor passed away on March 23 at the age of 79. The cause was congestive heart failure—which seems a little crazy to us. Throughout her rich lifetime, Liz's heart never failed her. She leaves behind an unparalleled legacy of love. She might have been known for her many marriages, but her relationships extended beyond that of a spouse. A humanitarian, friend and mother, as well, Taylor taught us time and time again about the lessons we can learn through each love and each relationship.
Over time I started to trust my parental instincts in a way I hadn’t before. And as she grew, I marveled at the toddler she turned into: fiery and independent, sure of herself. She knew more of life than her brothers did at that age: she understood she wouldn’t always come first and things weren't always fair and she dealt. I realized my instinctual parenting had unintentionally taught her something: resilience.
"One of the things that I've noticed is that older women are more prone to engage in this type of behavior simply because they have already figured out that the dream of meeting the handsome prince is only a fairy tale. They've been hurt, used and mentally/physically abused so they want to feel like they are in control. They are okay with simply getting their freak on and calling it a day." Do you agree? Are women resorting to casual sex, because they're jaded about love? Join the conversation.
It's no secret that a walk down the aisle most often brings about a weight gain of about six to nine pounds. But what's been a secret or a misinformed public opinion is that your weight gain is a key factor in determining marriage satisfaction. Actually, marital satisfaction is better determined by a wife's weight gain relative to her husband's. University of Tennessee psychologist Andrea Maltzer's team tracked 165 couples over a four-year timespan. The couples completed questionnaires every six months to determine their level of satisfaction. Findings? Husbands that were satisfied at the time of marriage remained so over time, to the extent that their wives maintained lower BMIs than their own, researchers reported.
So you’re thinking about getting married? Congratulations because your in for the ride of your life. The wedding plan process first begins with the Ring. Yes, that shiny sparkler can seal the deal or break your heart. The average male will spend two months pay on an Engagement Ring. So where do you begin? First and fore most educate yourself. There are four extremely important factors when investing in a precious stone: Cut, Clarity, Carat, and Color.
It can be difficult to stay connected to our loved ones in today's hectic world. We struggle to keep friendships strong with coffee dates and quick emails, and we diligently pencil in phone calls to our grandparents even when we're swamped. But our romantic relationships rarely receive the same type of attention that our friends and families do, and the results can be devastating. Imagine looking across the kitchen table at the familiar contours of your husband's face… and realizing that the man you married now feels like a total stranger.
A disgruntled husband in Italy filed to annul his marriage after his wife told him she may want an open marriage. No word on how long the couple were married, what context her "open marriage" musings took place and whether the marriage was basically finito anyway, but the Italian court system ruled in favor of the man, the marriage dissolved and the former wife isn't even allowed to receive alimony.
A North-Indian festival, Karva Chauth is where thousands of married Hindu women fast all day in hopes of increasing their husband's life span. According to a blog published on the festival in the Wall Street Journal, wives dress up in colorful clothes with matching bangles and jewelry, sport henna on their hands," and fast until they see their husband in the flesh or photo form.
Self-improvement and I are old pals. At age 11, I decided to fix my thighs (aerobics); at 19, to fix my soul (daily mass). In my 30s, I vowed to fix my mothering (support group, too many books). I've spent considerable hours of my life delving into self-actualization, mindful growth, claiming my authenticity, expanding my horizons, seeking enlightenment, making positive affirmations, eating and being in some zone, and twelve-stepping to some new place that was always just another plateau. I took classes, joined support groups, journaled for peak performance. Then I realized that if I didn't stop the manic frenzy of trying to better myself, at age 95 I'd likely still never know the secret. Lately, I began to ask myself why was I behaving as if only the new, improved person I would someday be, mattered more than the me I was, the me I am, now? What was I showing my kids about judging oneself too harshly, about dissatisfaction as a default mindset? And did I really want my husband to think I wasn't pretty terrific as is? I decided to knock it off.
Each week at Traditional Love we bring you the best links around the web on love, marriage, family and all things related. This week we bring you links on fatherhood, cheating and how to be a happy wife. Research shows that when it comes to marriage, the old model still makes wives happy. [Mercator]
Children are most definitely a blessing. They require a substantial investment of our time, attention and resources, but return joy that can’t be measured. However, parents must not lose their relationship in the midst of the overwhelming nature of parenting. Spouses can be intentional about their marriage so the whole family can thrive. After nearly 15 years of marriage, I’m still learning this. Small improvements in your family can make a big difference. Don’t feel guilty when you are taking time for your marriage. Remind yourself that you are benefiting your children as well. The alternative is to do nothing, and continue the almost imperceptible drift apart.
You've met his friends; he's met yours. Now it's time to add fruity cocktails and mix. Short of introducing your parents to his, combining your two sets of friends—especially if they exist in very different worlds—is one of the most nerve-wracking milestones in a relationship. And since summertime is party time, it's probably going to happen in the next month or so. Here are a few steps you can take to make sure it's not a complete disaster.