If your husband wants to have it, the quickest route to the bedroom is by way of a vacuum, a duster, and possibly a mop. I know, not very romantic and probably not your strong suit, but the small gesture of cleaning or picking up a bit around the house can lift a mother’s spirits—and lighten the stress of the impending household-chore doom. So guys, if you want to get it on, but your new-mom permanent-scowl wife just doesn’t seem up for it, clean. And make no mention of sex. Just clean. Without being asked. We guarantee you’ll be getting some by the time baby’s in bed.
Helen Andelin wrote a book about being a better wife called Fascinating Womanhood decades ago and now she teaches a web course about it. Our writer was skeptical, but she gave it a try. She was one of the only women in the class that was not a stay-at-home wife and someone of the lessons seemed beneath her. But she did need someone to talk to and was overwhelmed with housework. So, she listened intently to her classmates and learned that having an open mind and taking a new approach (for her) was helpful. And being a little more feminine was pretty fun. Maybe the 1950s housewife wasn't so hopelessly clueless after all.