Theoretically, asking your husband or wife to empty the dishwasher should be totally devoid of drama or tension. It's just one of many chores necessary to keep your home functioning, right? However, with a passive-aggressive personality, any situation has the potential to go from the trivial to emotional combat.
No more saying "yes" to every request that comes your way. Let your drama queen friend cry on someone else's shoulder. Set boundaries with your kids, mate, boss and anyone else who crosses the line. Let go of the rescue role. Most importantly, trade some of your daily to-dos for some personal pampering pleasures. Here is a short list of ways you can feed your feminine essence.
You're deeply in love with your husband. But lately, you feel like he doesn't need you as much as he used to. You're beginning to feel insignificant to his life, and you don't know whether this is common or the grounds to make you leave the relationship. How can you assess what is "normal"?
Over the years, I have seen countless women both professionally and personally who, without being aware, slip into an insecure, child-like place in their marriage. They lack self-confidence and find it difficult to be themselves. This can happen to any woman for many different reasons. Hence, I have seen many wives who, because they have never worked through their own childhood insecurities, unconsciously displace childhood feelings into their marriage.
Think of a hot, successful date with someone you're attracted to. You have fun, great conversation and more sexual chemistry than a warehouse full of pheromones. You don't have to "work at" the date because it's self sustaining. It runs as smoothly as the gliding hand of a classical guitar maestro and you can't wait for another rendition. But marriage, or any long term relationship; well that's a whole other caboodle.
When you tell your wife you are truly listening and paying attention, it is very important to mean it. This is because your wife knows when you are actually paying attention and when you are not. You might look like and act like you're listening, but your wife intuitively knows that you're really tuning her out!
Current television programs, magazine articles, movies and music don't represent marriage very well. The area they do the worst job covering is married sex. In many ways, even though most of the single people I know want to get married, the marriage rate has gone down. Couples who believed that cohabitating would keep their sex hot have been disillusioned and disappointed when they find out that what keeps sex hot is the security of a committed relationship.
What if your life was perfect? What if all paths actually led up the mountain regardless of what choices you made, how much money you had or lost, how many times you were married or had sex, if you cheated or were totally devoted to the same person for 65 years? What if no matter which way you turned, a hundred or a thousand times, it all led to the same place? What if enough was what you already have? What if you were born with it and no matter what you did, it would be simply to gain more of what you already have? What if right now, it was true that you have enough love, enough attention, enough freedom, enough health, enough sex, enough courage and enough of what it takes to know you can never really have any more than what you have right now?
If you've been paying any attention at all, you're keenly aware that happily married couples are an endangered species. You probably know the divorce statistics (50%) and when you go to the grocery store, you see the magazine covers highlighting the breakups of politicians, athletes, singers, and actors.
Listen, it’s not easy for men. We understand that it’s a two-way street, this dating thing. Tried and true, we young professionals hit the bars, clubs, gyms, restaurants and other various hot spots perceived to be breeding ground for potential girlfriends and spouses.
It was a quick wake up call to learn that my husband didn't feel I honored him--and then I set out to learn what honoring your spouse really means. In a world where traditional values pull us women in one direction and modern notions pull us in another, are we really still expected to submit to our husbands?
Let's face it, guys. You never want to end up in your girlfriend or wife's proverbial doghouse, but Valentine's Day might be the worst possible night to spend sleeping on the couch. One way to ensure you stay in your lady's good graces is to make sure you buy her a great gift.
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There are quite a few possible reasons for why a man won't have sex with his woman. Most of these reasons are not within our female powers to control and fix—reasons like he is gay or he is a sex addict who can only have sex with women who he doesn't feel an emotional connection with, etc. However, don’t let the thought of those reasons get you down just yet!
This is one of the reasons you got married — so you can spend the holidays with your husband or wife. Whether it's your first season together or your 30th, you never get tired of the look on your significant other's face when they open the perfect gift you hand-selected for them.
For many, an affair is a deal-breaker. It's the end of the relationship, a sign that the spouses need to move on, and a black and white issue with little recourse. But in longer marriages, especially when kids are involved, infidelity doesn't have to end the marriage. Some marriages can recover.