Today's Washington Post has a slideshow of the best dresses for second weddings. Eleven percent of engaged women and 17% of men said their upcoming nuptials would not be their first, according to a Conde Nast poll. Second time around, brides tend to choose gowns that are very different from what they wore at their first wedding. And red carpet events and celebrity weeklies that showcase fanciful frocks are fueling both brides' and designers' desires for creative wedding dresses.
When I set out as an engaged person, I swore I was the anti-bride. I didn’t want to get swept up in all the hoop-la of planning a wedding—and turn into a national youtube bridezilla phenomenon. I think I’ve done a pretty good job keeping my cool, but it’s impossible (if you’re having a somewhat traditional wedding, like we are) to ignore the details all together. At some point you actually have to do stuff—and that point was this past weekend. Fred and I finally went to Men’s Wearhouse and picked out his and groomsmen’s tuxes. When I announced that I was clueless to the saleswomen (I’m not exactly a fashion guru), they laughed and made it a pretty painless experience.
I'm not normally what you'd call old-fashioned, as a 24-year-old feminist, agnostic video game developer. But when it comes to my wedding, I want to be the princess from the storybook. Despite hunting down the latest fashions in fusion recipes, high-end laptops, and nightclubs, I just don't have the need to make my wedding "modern."
I went online yesterday to check our registry and see what gifts people have bought us so far (one of the many fun perks of registering) and on the Crate and Barrel web site, it thoughtfully gives us a countdown to the big day. In huge red letters it said "99 DAYS until your event." I couldn't believe it. Whenever anyone asks how wedding planning is going, I give a no-big-deal shrug and say, "We've got nearly everything done." And I used to believe that when I said it, until I saw that we only have 99 days left! We have to get his ring, pick out the tuxes, finalize the cupcakes with the baker, give the DJ our reception instructions and no-play list, get fitted for my dress, buy shoes and jewelry, and probably about 50 more things that I haven't even thought of.
But we're talking truly non-traditional (not, I think I'm going to wear ivory instead of white *gasp* non-traditional). A new magazine, With This Ring, is gearing up to address brides and weddings of the gay, interracial, interfaith, and with-child types. And anyone else who feels a little out of the box when it comes to saying I do.
A while back, people were saying—and are still saying—that the institution of marriage was dead. That couples were not interested in and did not need to make their bonds legal. Well, not so, says The Guardian. In a recent article, new research suggests that it’s not the interest level that’s affecting declining marriage rates—it’s income levels.
Last weekend, Fred and I went to visit my parents in Savannah—where we're getting married—and finalized a lot of the wedding details. We went to the baker, the florist, met with the DJ and had lunch with the minister. It was quite a full weekend. While running around, I again thought that I wasn't cut out for this wedding planning stuff. I looked at Fred and said, "I wish we could just get married tomorrow." I don't like the details. Thinking about flowers and how I want the cake displayed is annoying to me. My old roommate got engaged when I was living with her and in two weeks she had created an extensive scrapbook with cut-out magazine pictures of flowers, receptions, dresses— everything that she wants in her wedding. It was amazing. And it also made me feel like a bad bride. I had been engaged for 5 months at that point and had looked at maybe one wedding magazine.
If you happen to be in Boston this weekend, take a breather (back away from the wedding-planning binder!) and remember why you’re getting hitched in the first place with the opening of Peabody Essex Museum’s Wedded Bliss, the Marriage of Art and Ceremony. The exhibit spans four continents and three centuries, bringing matrimony to life, from paintings (Picasso! Chagall!) and ceremonial objects to couture gowns (fashion!) and rare jewelry.
A British wedding magazine called You & Your Wedding has surveyed 1,000 women about bridesmaid contracts. And they discovered that 20% of these women require their maid-of-honor sign a contract in regard to her duties. That is pretty hardcore. But it sets the tone for a properly run event.
George Mason University in Fairfax, VA has offered a class in wedding planning. The class is for credit and apparently a lot of work. The professor is a former wedding planner who actually co-wrote the text book. College kids do not need this kind of pressure.
Brides-to-be who are anything but blushing get bad reps, when, in reality, the cacophony of unsolicited opinions flying about during the planning process could make anyone batty. Wedding expert Sharon Naylor fielded 150 real-life pre-wedding pickles such as lackadaisical groomsmen or interfering in-laws, then composed advice in The Bride’s Diplomacy Guide: Solutions to 150 of the Stickiest Dilemmas that Face a Bride-to-Be. The cause behind most planning conflicts, she emphasizes, is intensified emotions not evil personalities! And, while we think a bride has every right to revert to verbal threats when family and guests forget that the day should be about her and not them, the cool-headed Naylor instead promotes diplomacy: Listening, calm explanations, the works. And that’s why this book comes in handy, offering situation-diffusing tips from a neutral source during a notoriously high-charged process that calls for much compromise. Happy wedding!
From The Rochester Democrat And Chronicle By Diana Louise Carter (November 12, 2007) — Caitlin Ormond thought a year would be plenty of time to plan her wedding with fiancé Adrian Blaszczak. Little did she know that many brides and grooms reserve chapels and reception spots two years in advance. So when Ormond, 23, started looking into venues last summer for weekend dates in late July 2008, they were all booked. Then she became friends with someone who had a wedding on a Thursday evening at Ormond's dream location — Casa Larga Vineyard — and an idea was born. Why not get married on Thursday, July 24, 2008? Casa Larga became more available and affordable with a midweek date. Ormond estimates she'll save more than $1,000 compared to booking on a Saturday, when she would have been required to pay for a 210-person minimum instead of for the 75 guests she expects.
Planning the wedding isn't the only stressful thing about getting married. Troubleshoot this exciting time so that you can walk down the aisle without any weight on your shoulders. Most brides are afraid to give in to their sadness and fear, thinking that once they turn on the faucet, it'll never shut off. In reality, emotions work the opposite way. What helps brides most is to embrace reality instead of remaining wedded to their fantasies.