A very attractive single mom recently told me this story: She had met a man and felt sure he was the man of her dreams. There was a synchronicity about their meeting she could not ignore; the chemistry was electric and the sex, she said, was the best she had ever had—in her life, I might add. It had to be love, she gushed!
Has this ever happened to you? You meet a new guy for coffee and have a great first date. The week goes by. He texts once or twice, but does not ask about the weekend. Then, he finally calls you, on Friday, to talk about the weekend. "Are you free tonight?" he asks. Well, you purposely left the weekend open hoping he would call. So you say, "Yes". You go out and have another great date. Then, you don't hear from him all week, except for some texting. This time, you can't take it. You want to know what is going to happen for the weekend. You can't stand this waiting game.
t’s a Saturday night. It’s your second date, maybe your third. And here you are, fooling around with him. The pressure of having to sleep with him has been on you since you were 13 years old. Now, you could be anywhere from your mid-30s to mid-40s to mid-50s, and the pressure is the same, so you give in. And now you have this guy moving his hands awkwardly around your body.
By Mary Schwager, Consumer Watchdog for GALTime How many times have you rushed to the doctor’s office to be on time for an appointment, and then ended up waiting so long you have enough time to catch up with every email in your blackberry AND read two of the bad magazines in the waiting area? Then, when you finally once get some face time with your doc, you feel like you’re hurried through everything.
There is a whole movement called the "attraction principle." Have you heard about the secret? It's about tapping into your thoughts to energetically attract the right people and the life of your dreams. It's one thing to sit back and wish for that someone special to show up in your life and it's another to take some proactive steps to meet that right person you so desire to build your life with! This is my dating success formula!
These blogs for me are about challenging the standards that people and mostly woman seem to accept on how we should be treated and how we behave. I ask my readers to take a glance at the behavior of #WomanNation and acknowledge that a change is necessary. At times what I say will make some say “who does she think she is” I’ll simply answer “Me”. If somebody being them makes you feel a sort of way about yourself, It’s oblivious; you have some questions about the choices you’ve made in life.
The mass of men live lives of quiet desperation ~Thoreau If you have eyes to see, you’ll see it everywhere. If you listen carefully, you’ll hear it. Most times, logging into Facebook provides an overwhelming dose of it. Desperation. It looks a lot like the person who can’t wait for the weekend. It sounds like the person who walks into the office saying “I hate Monday!!”. It’s the person who hates their job but needs the money.
A modern woman shouldn't break down over a marriage proposal. But despite all the gender-role changes over the past decades, men asking women for their hand in marriage is a tradition that has remained strong. And for a woman who wants her man to get down on one knee, waiting for that one little question is stressful and nerve-wracking. But can waiting for a proposal really drive you crazy?
I love my man, Chris, more deeply and truly than I have ever loved anyone before. As cliche as that may sound, it is the truth. He makes me smile and laugh no matter how angry I am. Even when it's him that is making my blood boil. How does he do that? He is in my heart. That's how. (Insert obnoxiously long "aw" here.) I feel drawn to this man like a moth to flame, Iccharus to the sun, or birds to the South in Winter. It is only natural for me to love him. His patience with me knows few limitations. When no one else can bear to be around me due to my mood swings or hormones, he still has my back. If I am upset for a "stupid girl reason" (my term, not his), he doesn't judge me. Rather, he waits patiently for the mood to pass and my fun-loving, goofy little psycho self to come back out to play. His love is pure, like spring water. Cool and refreshing. He is my fountain of youth, because we almost always have fun together. Chris is the one I want to marry. He knows this. I remind him a little too often, sometimes, but I am having trouble waiting for it to be real. I have been engaged 5 times: Wayne in 1997 (verbal, no ring, broke up before he proposed), Roy in 2000 (broke up shortly after starting wedding planning), Kevin (verbal, ring was bought, decided to be friends before he proposed and we are still very close), Jacob in April of 2004 (married 26 months, divorced bitterly), Sam in November of 2007 (he broke up with me 10 days before the wedding). So, damaged and in love with love as I am, my patience grows weak....
Waiting until marriage to have sex? Know your limits and learn how to deal with men who pressure you to have sex. Matt and Tamsen give advice. See what others had to say and give advice here: I have limits, how can I make him respect them? Got a question? Ask it now at http://www.yourtango.com/questions
How I became a divorced virgin: "I was twenty-nine, single again after a five-year marriage, and a virgin. When I met my now ex-husband Mike, I had just turned 21. We met at small Catholic liberal arts college, and even though I no longer believed in Jesus, the Saints, the Bible, God, really any of that. I was a virgin then, and I was a virgin when we divorced."
The facts: According to USA Today, Americans are getting hitched later than ever—the median marriage age is the oldest it's been since the census started tracking the stat in 1890: 25.6 for women and 27.5 for men. Back in the late nineteenth century we were at 26 for men and 22 for women; marriage ages reached a low in the early 60s, when men wed at 22 and women at 20. Since then we've been waiting longer and longer.