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Losing a breast forces you to learn the meaning of emotional vulnerability.
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What No One Ever Tells You About Mastectomies & Intimacy

Ever wonder why we’re all so crazy about breasts? Because they're so damned desirable, that's why. This is a reality that every women who's undergone a mastectomy deals with each day. The idea of reconstruction is like a big security blanket that makes us feel that whatever it is we're about to go through, we'll be fine and dandy in no time. But, as a woman who's lost a breast to cancer and had reconstruction, I can tell you first hand: the reality is more complicated than that.

Precious Gems
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Precious Gems

I was talking to a friend about what we do when we find ourselves unfulfilled as we go through our lives.  Sometimes even when we have set goals, followed a path to our dreams and seen them actualized we still feel unfulfilled.  We dream of how life will be bigger, better, happier, richer, more alive once we reach our goals.  Very often we find that once we have mastered the challenge there is a void in our lives. 

So you think you don’t “need” a man?
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So you think you don’t “need” a man?

If you happened to click on this article because you had a suspicion it was going to irritate you, let me start by sharing this widely-accepted notion. “The truth will set you free – but occasionally, it may really aggravate you first...” I think we all intuitively “get” that there are many good reasons why you might not want to feel like you “need” your partner.

10 Dos & Don'ts For Planning Your Next Date
Do you make the wrong moves on your dates?
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10 Dos & Don'ts For Planning Your Next Date

Have a plan for the date gentlemen and hold loosely to it in case of rain, she could express a strong dislike for what you have planned —e.g. "I'm allergic to the smell of coffee," so you compromise for the teahouse instead — or something unexpected happens.

Vulnerability is Essential to Love
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Vulnerability is Essential to Love

Why is self worth necessary in order to be vulnerable? When we seek validation from others, we give away our power by letting them define our worth. If your worth depends on your partner’s validation, you won’t say what’s really on your mind and how you feel. You’ll censor your words and emotions in order to get your partner’s love, approval and acceptance.

Is It Okay To Cry?
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Is It Okay To Cry?

I’m in session with a client who is telling me about a very emotional event in her life. She begins to tear up, but she fights it and keeps the tears back. We continue to talk and she continues to fight. She isn’t fooling anyone. I can see the tears there, wanting to come out. Then there is a moment when one of us says something that makes it so she can’t hold them back any more and the tears begin to flow.

How To Improve Your Intimacy Quotient & Lure Him In
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How To Improve Your Intimacy Quotient & Lure Him In

Your intimacy quotient is crucial for a man to go from "attracted to you" to "totally intoxicated by you"! This quotient is measured by how intimate your energy feels to him--whether he wants to get closer and closer to you or not, by the way you interact with him in quiet, loving and romantic moments. Your capacity for deep levels of intimacy is all related to how much physical and emotional closeness you can tolerate and even INVITE with a man.

Why You Shouldn't Focus On The Future [EXPERT]
"I've kept myself busy to avoid feeling this vulnerability."
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Why You Shouldn't Focus On The Future

We can't control the future. We can't control the outcome of most events in our lives. We can, however, control how we choose to respond to the fear-based "what-if" thoughts that descend on our minds like an avalanche and try to pull us away from this moment, right here, right now.

The Fragile Male Ego? Not So Fast!
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The Fragile Male Ego? Not So Fast!

By SMF, Marcus Osborne for GALTime That headline should not be read as a knock against the X chromosome set. Consider it more an objective observation. Yes, I said, “objective.” Hey, being a guy doesn’t kill my ability to see a situation fairly. As a matter of fact, as I think more about this topic, I’m thinking mine may be the lone voice of impartiality here.

Increase Your Strength By Reducing Your Vulnerabilities
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Increase Your Strength By Reducing Your Vulnerabilities

At times we can feel as though our emotional reactions take control of us and we have no choice but to follow in their destructive path. The truth is that everyone has the ability to be in control during difficult times and that it takes work to get there. Part of that work is reducing your vulnerabilities so that you can feel stronger and more able to face life.