Building trust is one of the biggest concerns couples come to me with each week. It is a simple and a difficult task that requires intentions in all your interations together. You can do it, here is how. Talk through the following five questions with your sweetie to start building greater trust and intimacy now. Even if you think you know your partner’s answer, stay open to the possibility that they could surprise you. Answering these can be a great starting point to becoming even stronger together.
Let’s face it, we live in a culture that applauds appearances more than almost anything. And keeping them up. While it used to be just about “keeping up with the Joneses,” now we’re also loaded down, preoccupied with fear over safety and security, protecting ourselves, our children, shielding our computers and our country from terrorism and cyberstalking.
We are one day closer to Valentine's Day! So, let's explore the concept of vulnerability. Being vulnerable with your partner brings you closer together and helps to cement your bond.
Trapeze artists might be some of the bravest people in the world, but they're also among the most vulnerable. Tremendous trust—in themselves, other people, and the universe—is necessary to be able to climb up a 25-foot ladder, grab onto a thin bar, and jump. Relationships have always been my trapeze bars.
Anyone who's seen films like "Office Space" and "The Devil Wears Prada" knows that bad bosses are a kind of running joke, especially in corporate culture. But those of us who've read books like Lean In and The Seven Habits Of Highly Effective People realize that good managers do exist, and we can learn a lot from them—including valuable relationship tips. In honor of Boss's Day, we've identified the top five love lessons everyone can learn from kick-ass managers.
It's pretty clear why men fantasize about being superheroes: they're strong, powerful and revered. It wasn’t until I allowed myself to be open, to be vulnerable, that I found I could enjoy the very thing a man wants to be—strong, masculine, confident. My hero. That to allow a man be what he strives to be doesn't take away from who I am or what I can do. And I know I'm not alone in this.
Is a lack of emotional intimacy straining your relationship with your significant other? Here's how to break the pursuer-distancer pattern and get your relationship back in action.
Where are you most successful in your life? How did that success come about? Was it intelligence, education and talent or maybe just dumb luck? According to Angela Lee Duckworth, Ph.D, who studies achievement, true success takes more than intelligence and talent, which so many of us have. She also reminds us that attaining a level of expertise in any field takes 10 years of dedicated perseverance. In other words, the one thing that separates the world-renowned performers, artists, researchers, and high-achievers is GRIT.
I help my clients see beneath the "fog of war" and get down to what's real — that's where the solution can be found. When two people constantly dig in and fortify their positions, the conflict only blinds both partners and prolongs the battle. That is, until one partner steps up. Only in that moment can healing begin.
There are a ton of things that we worry about when it comes to sex—from whether or not we shaved that day, to trying not to look like Flubber while squeezing out of our Spanx. But what does your guy really think about it all?
Both men and women find vulnerability attractive in a partner, for many different reasons.
Thanks to sensational programs like MTV's Catfish, we can now — as a society — sit back on our comfy couches and make fun of people who fall prey to online romance schemes. But when you are lied to, stolen from and emotionally ripped off by a stranger at a time in your life when you're most vulnerable, it's far from entertainment.
Vulnerability is often seen as a weakness, but it's actually a strength. Dr. Brené Brown, a renowned expert on vulnerability, explains that it's really about "sinking into" the joyful moments in life — daring to show up and let ourselves be seen.
It may seem obvious to some, but not all, that the best relationships are ones born out of trust and vulnerability. Each partner approaches one another as an equal. The relationship does not drain its participants; instead it nourishes. Differences between partners are complementary. These differences are advantageous and desirable and do not create a hindrance to the relationship; instead they contribute to its growth.
Sex alone cannot provide the fullness of emotional connection needed for healthy relationships. Improving your relationship requires continual emotional growth. Here are seven ways to build that emotional intimacy.