How does someone end up not having sex for 15 years? By accident, swears writer Kit Naylor on Salon.com. We've all had dry spells, but man, 15 years is one hell of a dry spell! Naylor is a middleaged woman, a self-described recluse with two cats and no kids. She calls herself "a spinster long past my sell-by date." Spinster! We think that's a sexist way to refer to herself, but nevertheless, we admire how she got that way: she wants to be in love to make love. It seems that by eschewing casual sex and being committed to personal integrity, she's condemning herself to accidental celibacy.
For whatever reason (maybe the abstinence-only sex ed debate), virginity is everywhere. Some of our most popular movies are about young men out to lose their v-cards. And the news is filled with stories of older virgins when it's not mentioning deflowering for sale. What gives? And why for several thousand years have we been obsessed with virgin women?
Seventeen is the magic age for a young lady's loss of virginity and seven is the average "number" for a woman -- whether she are overweight/obese or of a slender size. A study of 6,700 women out of Oregon and Hawaii shows overweight gals sleep with the same number of sexual partners per year, as well as during their lifetime, and lose their V-cards at about the same age, according to the Seattle Times. Surprising, right? It just goes to show you the cultural stigma against bigger women -- whether they're simply not Kate Bosworth-sized or unhealthily overweight and obese -- skews our perception about whether these women are sexual beings.
Meet Albania's "sworn virgins." These poor, rural Albanian matrons chose decades ago (almost a century ago, in some cases) to live as virgins in order to be the "head of the household," in the absence of male heirs. In this patriarchal society, instead of marrying and becoming wives and mothers, these women act as fathers to their sisters and take care of the "man's business."
"First Timer's Kit: The Complete Guide To Losing Your Virginity" aims to rid the world of ungrateful virgins by easing one out of their virginity with a hands-on guide. The losing virginity text book, is full of famous virgins, scenarios, and what to do in emergency situations. Also included, sexual position study cards so you don't come into the bedroom looking like a one-trick pony.
What do The Jonas Brothers, Miley Cyrus, and Jordin Sparks all have in common? None of them are getting laid. According to each of the stars, they are A-okay with it. In fact, they’re promoting their virginity by sporting the ever-so-trendy purity rings, which stand for abstinence. (I wonder if Bristol Palin was wearing hers before she got knocked up?)
Everyone's favorite magic man (no you see him, now you don't?) discusses his deflowering in this month's Details. We're willing to bet that that article REALLY got Details' readership fired up. Evidently, it was a much older woman per Daniel Radcliffe.
Tales of a 36-Year-Old Virgin is a series of incredibly moving posts on BlogHer by a woman calling herself Always Beginning the World. ABW describes how, during her first OBGYN exam, the doctor told her that her vagina was too small to have sex, use tampons or even receive a pap smear. Twenty years later she learned the doctor was wrong.
When a promise ring is not enough, abstinence-promoting underwear might do the trick. Printed with slogans such as "True Love Will Wait" and "Earn your right to wear white: Abstain.", it's hard to tell if these $11 white cotton thongs are marketed facetiously or seriously as a last-ditch effort to preserve one's virginity. I can't imagine parents of abstinence-abiding teens would be excited to buy an undergarment that only exists thanks to form-fitting clothing, let alone one meant to be read by a second party. Regardless, we'll call the undies both inspiring and clever. My favorite pair? An image of cherries above the words "Iron Hymen." That oft-forgotten membrane sure is getting its share of the limelight this year.
Ah, Facebook, one of the most popular social networking tools on the web. Complete with the stalker's mini-feed to tell what your friends are up to and scores of boredom-battling applications, but 23-year old Laura Michaels sure found a new way to use it. Ten minutes after she created "I Need Sex," the group already had 35 members and proceeded to gain the membership of a rough total of 100 men. Maneater Michaels ate up half the group by sleeping with 50 of the guys with the defense that "I was satisfying my own desires."
A new study has come out saying that losing virginity late is correlated with various sexual problems.