Even though we love our partners, being married can sometimes feel like a job because of the amount of effort that it takes to make it work. Not only does it require a lot of time and energy for it to last, it's also super important to pay attention—especially when it comes to our partner's needs. That's what makes the moment we realize that we aren't as intimate as we used to be really hard to deal with. Even though thinking about the lack of sex in our relationship can be scary, there are ways to fix this.
With the hookup culture on the rise, being in a faithful and monogamous relationship doesn't seem to be the norm these days. Instead, a lot of people compare the idea of a committed relationship to being trapped because you can't go out and "explore". In fact, many have this notion that monogamy is pretty much the end of your sex life—and that's just not true!
Sometimes, we get so caught up in routine that our relationships lose the spark that was there in the beginning. The tension can stack up, leading to less spontaneous and sometimes boring sex. Trying to figure out how to spice up our sex lives can be pretty hard when we don't know what we should change. That's one of the reasons why talking with our partners is so important. If we really think about it, there's really one thing that can instantly improve our experience—And that's emotional intimacy.
We all know that the first date is always the most important date. After all, it's pretty much the foundation of a new relationship. Sometimes, it goes so well that you two feel really connected and want to take things up a notch. This the moment when you'll have to make a choice: Do you risk your budding relationship by having sex or wait until you've gone on a few more dates?
After being married for so long, it can be incredibly hard to acknowledge the changes happening both in and out of the bedroom. Sometimes, our expectations for our sex life don't match up with reality. Being able to talk about our wants and needs is the first step to bringing that intimacy back. Just because you're married doesn't mean that you can't spice it up in bed!
For some reason, sex seems to be the first thing people worry about when it comes to relationships. There definitely used to be a time when people waited and didn’t feel pressured to rush things. With today's hookup culture, it's almost as if most people care less about making a connection and more about the superficial. Rushing will only hurt your relationship.
With the kids always keeping us on our feet, trying to sneak in some alone time with our partners is pretty much like mission impossible. Even though having our husbands constantly nagging us for sex when we're just not feeling it can be super frustrating, we hate making them feel like they're being rejected. There has to be a way to find some kind of middle ground.
Just the thought of having a relationship where we get butterflies every single time we're with our partner puts a smile on our face; it makes us want to believe that real love is all about connecting with someone without the physical. But one thing that people don't realize is that sex actually plays a key in maintaining our relationships and making them last!
While the thought of having makeup sex after a huge fight is pretty appealing, the fact that the best sex that some of us have ever had almost always comes after a huge blow out may mean that something isn't right. And with all of the daily tasks that we have to tend to on our plates, we're not always going to have time to light candles and make love, let alone for foreplay. That's where scheduling time for routine sex comes into play!
With the amount of stuff we have on our plates everyday, it's going to take a lot more than begging to get your wife in the mood. There is nothing easy about having to balance work and taking care of the kids — all while trying to fit in time for a breather. Sex isn't an obligation. It doesn't matter how long you've been together; you have to work on the build up to get the pay off.
Deciding to finally settle down and raise a family with your soulmate is a pretty big deal. Whether you plan it or not, taking care of the kids (and your husband) pretty much becomes a full time job, which makes sneaking in sexy time like mission impossible. Lately, your marriage (and overall sex life) has seriously been lacking intimacy and it's becoming a problem. How can you get it on when you're just not in the mood?
If you're one of the lucky people who got to marry their soulmate, feeling like your heart is going to explode from happiness and love pretty much comes with the territory. But sometimes, life and work and everything that comes with having a family can get in the way and your partner might start pulling away a bit. In some cases, as times passes, you may find that he seems less interested in being intimate. Why the sudden change? What does this mean for your marriage?
There's no question that we can all use a little reassurance from time to time but constantly requiring affirmation is a major turnoff (not to mention a total hit to your partner's sex drive). If you often find yourself asking him "Does this make me look fat?" or "Do you see the roll over my jeans?", we're going to have to stop you right there because this intervention is more than necessary.
Dying to know if your partner is satisfied with your sex life? Are you constantly wondering if there's anything you can do to heighten the pleasure? We're going to let you in on the secret to finding out if you're good in bed: You're going to have to open your mouth and ask him these sex questions!