Attention men everywhere, YourTango Expert Esther Perel has a message for you: "He who looks down there is wasting his time." Confused? Allow her to explain. If you want to rev things up between-the-sheets with your partner, let your five senses control foreplay. Turn her on with your words, beckon her with your smell, and sexplore with taste. Voilà, you've uncovered the secret to mind-blowing sex.
Even though we can sometimes be a bit embarassed to admit it, we've all most likely turned to porn or erotica to get in the mood at least once. But for some reason, there's such a stigma placed on having to watch videos or read erotic stories to get turned on—And there really shouldn't be! That being said, here are some other ways to get in the mood.
Yes, being a busy parent can put a SERIOUS damper on your sex life! From hanging out with the kids, to being weighed down by those never ending household chores, fitting in private time with your partner can feel like mission impossible. Here's how you can spice things up in the bedroom even though you feel SO exhausted all of the time!
We don't know about you but there's definitely something about 50 Shades of Grey that makes us all hot and bothered. Whether it's due to the fact that the book series proves that women can enjoy sex just as much as men do (despite popular belief), it's honestly refreshing to see that there's nothing wrong with liking erotica and wanting to explore the kinkier side of sex. Here's why women can't help swoon over the sexy series.
After reading those sexy scenes from E.L. James' 50 Shades of Grey, we have to say that BDSM and role-playing just got a lot more interesting. It's no surprise that after being introduced to the book, people have been more open about exploring their sexuality, as well as other aspects of sex that were once considered taboo. Whether you're looking for ways to spice up your sex life or have just been wanting to explore the world of kinks, trying something new in bed can have many perks that'll benefit you and your husband (wink).
When it comes to sex, who should take charge in the bedroom?
Even though it can be really hard trying to find some time to be intimate with our partners, it doesn't mean that sex has to come to a grinding halt just because we're busy caring for the kids.
Can your one-night stand really be the future love of your life? If we really think about it, chances are most people have had a one-night stand by time they are 30 years old. Even though most people see it as just having a good time, there have actually been times where strangers who had sex ended up dating each other. Be honest, we know we're not the only ones who think that hearing stories like that makes us wonder if it's seriously possible for lust at first sight to turn into a great relationship. Although this may sound farfetched, it may be possible to turn a one-night stand into something more—that is, IF you know exactly what to look for.
Even though we love our partners, being married can sometimes feel like a job because of the amount of effort that it takes to make it work. Not only does it require a lot of time and energy for it to last, it's also super important to pay attention—especially when it comes to our partner's needs. That's what makes the moment we realize that we aren't as intimate as we used to be really hard to deal with. Even though thinking about the lack of sex in our relationship can be scary, there are ways to fix this.
We all know that the first date is always the most important date. After all, it's pretty much the foundation of a new relationship. Sometimes, it goes so well that you two feel really connected and want to take things up a notch. This the moment when you'll have to make a choice: Do you risk your budding relationship by having sex or wait until you've gone on a few more dates?
For some reason, sex seems to be the first thing people worry about when it comes to relationships. There definitely used to be a time when people waited and didn’t feel pressured to rush things. With today's hookup culture, it's almost as if most people care less about making a connection and more about the superficial. Rushing will only hurt your relationship.
With the kids always keeping us on our feet, trying to sneak in some alone time with our partners is pretty much like mission impossible. Even though having our husbands constantly nagging us for sex when we're just not feeling it can be super frustrating, we hate making them feel like they're being rejected. There has to be a way to find some kind of middle ground.
Wanting to spice up the sexual energy in your relationship is nothing to be embarrassed about; in fact, the need to find ways to get closer to your partner is completely natural. But is there a way to keep the chemistry alive from the beginning without having to struggle to reignite the flame?
When it comes to dating in the modern age, the vast amount of rules we tend to listen to and follow without question makes finding the one incredibly stressful. Just how many dates should you go on before you have sex? Despite being one of the most popular questions asked by Ok Cupid and the rest of the online dating world, pinning down the answer isn't as easy as simply checking off an option.
Sure, there are a lot of reasons to have sex. But is the physical, pleasurable sensation the only reason most people enjoy sex?