When it comes to getting a divorce, having to deal with living apart is just the beginning. As if being a single parent wasn't difficult enough, just the thought of having to be the bearer of bad news and tell the kids that their dad is going to be living somewhere else makes our heart feel heavy. Even though no one ever said parenting (or divorce, for that matter) would be easy, we wish that there was some kind of manual that told us how to react and what to say.
As parents, there is nothing we want more than for our kids to be happy, healthy and safe. Just spending five minutes in the presence of their smiles and watching their eyes lighting up at the little things makes us want to do everything in our power to protect that innocence. So what's the best way to keep their stomachs full and their hearts smiling forever?
It goes without saying that we've all gone through moments where we felt like we couldn't stand to be around our significant others without wanting to pick a fight. Even in the healthiest relationships, there will be some disagreements — That's just human nature. But when it comes to fighting in front of your kids, that's a different ballpark.
When your kids seems to be negative all of the time, it can be hard trying to figure out how to get them to see the bright side of things. Overcoming pessimism isn't easy, even when you're an adult, but it is possible.
As parents, it makes sense that we have that natural, mama-bear instinct to protect our kids from the so-called dangers of the outside world. From simple things like falling off of a bike for the first time to coming home from school with a bruised ego, it's hard to ignore the internal switch that flips on at any sign of our kids' distress. But even though it's normal to want to be the hero in our kids' eyes, it might be time for us to realize that we just can't solve every problem. In fact, spending so much time trying to come up with solutions for everything could be pushing our kids away.
Dating after divorce isn't easy, but most of the time it's even harder for your kids. Regardless of whether you and your ex-spouse have been separated for awhile, the wound may still be fresh for your children; there's a possibility that your children are holding onto the hope that you'll get back together someday. Because it may be hard for them to grasp the fact that one of their parents may not be around at home anymore, treading carefully when it comes to introducing them to someone new is the best way to shield them from the pain of going through another loss. But just how soon is too soon to mention that you or your ex is dating again with your kids?
It's only natural that we want to tell our kids that everything they touch turns to gold. But there comes a time when constantly patting your children on the back will only cause them to have a sense of entitlement. If you want them to grow up with a healthy self-esteem, the endless stream of praises may have to be put on hold.
Let's be honest. When it comes to listening and following the rules, it's pretty much ingrained in your children's genes to make things harder for you. It's not their job to readily agree that you know what is best for them — they just have to do it. When you can't seem to breakthrough to them, is it OK to resort to trickery?
Lots of people stay in bad marriages for the sake of their kids. Ironically enough, this can sometimes have an even more negative on them than splitting up. Even though they're young, they will still be able to sense the tension between the two of you. When it's time to face the facts that you need a divorce, how can you best protect your kids? There are ways to make sure that co parenting works out for your family.
Doting parents can admit that their kids sometimes do things that really bugs them. But what is the difference between doing something wrong or dangerous and doing something that is just plain embarrassing?
After a marriage ends, a parent's top concern is understandably the kids. When you finally decide to make the first step towards divorce, what's next for you and your kids?
Now that you've finally brought your precious gift home and you're settling into a routine, you find yourself wanting to spend some time with friends... away from the house. How soon after having a baby can you go out with your friends and not feel guilty?