There's no question that maintaining a marriage is tough work. Despite what those movies would have you believe, marriage is not like a fairytale where everything just magically comes together. Not only is it ridiculously stressful at times, it takes two people to be willing to work at it in order for it to last. But that doesn't mean that having a happy and healthy relationship is impossible.
When it comes to love, wanting to know if your relationship is healthy (or just plain normal) is pretty natural. No matter how great things are going, there's always going to be a part of us that wonders if what we're experiencing is par for the course; being anxious is just in our nature. it doesn't help that we sometimes let this anxiety get to us, making us feel as if we have to compare our own marriage to everyone else's. But who knows what's supposed to happen? What does a normal marriage even look like, anyway?
One of our top priorities is making sure that our children are not only properly cared for, but are healthy too. But if we're being totally honest, taking care of the kids 24/7 can be a bit draining. Even though it seems like we should be putting our kids' well-being before our own on a constant basis, it can actually start to take a toll on our marriage.
Every relationship has its troubles. Instead of arguing, here's why it's important to use effective communication to get your point across.
Even though we love our partners, being married can sometimes feel like a job because of the amount of effort that it takes to make it work. Not only does it require a lot of time and energy for it to last, it's also super important to pay attention—especially when it comes to our partner's needs. That's what makes the moment we realize that we aren't as intimate as we used to be really hard to deal with. Even though thinking about the lack of sex in our relationship can be scary, there are ways to fix this.
Everyone has at least a few second thoughts when they're getting married. But figuring out if our cold feet are pre-wedding jitters or something so much more serious is where the real battle begins. After all, it's very easy to get caught up in the hype of the wedding and forget about the marriage that comes after it.
There's no question that all relationships take work. Even though it's a really hard thing to hear, we sometimes have to realize that simply loving someone isn't enough to make a marriage last. You could care for someone with all of your heart and still have issues in your marriage that you wished you could work out without rocking the boat. What makes matters worse is that according to recent studies, a whooping fifty percent of marriages end in divorce. With the divorce statistics stacked up so high, it makes us wonder if there really are ways to make our relationships work.
We spend our whole lives forming connections with the people around us; whether it's by talking to a stranger we normally pass on the street or falling in love with our soulmate, the strong bonds that we make throughout our lifetime shape who we are. According to recent studies, our attachment style actually has a major effect on our relationship!
Hitting a rouch patch in a marriage can be really scary, especially when thinking about all of the research that shows that couples tend to call it quits around this time. Who's to say that we'll come out of this stronger than before? How do we even end this cycle, anyway?
If you're one of the lucky people who got to marry their soulmate, feeling like your heart is going to explode from happiness and love pretty much comes with the territory. But sometimes, life and work and everything that comes with having a family can get in the way and your partner might start pulling away a bit. In some cases, as times passes, you may find that he seems less interested in being intimate. Why the sudden change? What does this mean for your marriage?
Based on our own personal experiences, we can all admit that no couple gets along 100% of the time. In fact, it's completely normal to have differing opinions and for said opinions to create conflict. However, how much fighting is too much fighting? Is there a way to tell whether the arguments are covering up a bigger issue? When two people are so passionate about their relationship and each other, it only makes sense that they're willing to duke it out to get their point across. The problem lies in not knowing how to differentiate between a lover's spat and a full out war.
It's chemistry! Conventional wisdom tells us that opposites attract but could it be that complimentary personalities attract instead? Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil dispenses relationship advice based on which personalities mesh and which clash.