Based on our own experiences, we know that the dating scene is rough out there. Instead of meeting men who are both secure and emotionally mature, we sometimes run into guys who pretty much act like they are still in high school—Which is seriously frustrating. But even though these less than stellar dates may make it seem like all guys are immature, the fact is that there are still emotionally mature men out there. If we want to find a great guy (who acts his age and not his shoe size), we've got to be upfront about our wants and needs.
When it comes to dating, there is someone out there for everyone. And matchmakers are a dynamite way to find that someone. But what if you and your matchmaker just don't click?
For some reason, people usually think that the older they get, the less chances there are for them to find their love. We're here to tell you that this couldn't be further from the truth! It doesn't matter if you've hit the 30, 40, or 50 benchmark; when it really comes down to it, rushing into dating someone just for the sake of having boyfriend or girlfriend won't do you any favors. Just because you're getting older doesn't mean that you have to settle for with Mr. Right Now when the right guy is out there. Loneliness should never be an excuse to stay in a relationship if you're just not into it.
If you're considering jumping back into the dating scene, knowing exactly what you are looking for can have some major perks. However, being so deadset on checking things off of your dating checklist (that is way too specific) can actually end up working against you. There's a difference between having an idea of the type of guy or relationship you are looking for and closing yourself off from other opportunities.
There's nothing worse than finally meeting the guy of your dreams and having the perfect first date, only for him to bail (and pretty much disapper) after you make plans to see each other again. The part that drives us crazy is the fact that it really seemed like we hit it off on the date, and all signs pointed to a second one. Nowadays, putting yourself out there and jumping back into the dating pool is hard enough as it is without having to crack the code on so many mixed signals. Does love at first sight even exist anymore?
We spend our whole lives forming connections with the people around us; whether it's by talking to a stranger we normally pass on the street or falling in love with our soulmate, the strong bonds that we make throughout our lifetime shape who we are. According to recent studies, our attachment style actually has a major effect on our relationship!
Trying to find someone who shares the same interests as you sometimes feels like finding a needle in a haystack. Don't even get us started on how hard it is to meet people who are upfront about their intentions. But if you're dating around with the hope that you'll find the perfect guy and get married, being totally honest about it will actually work in your favor.
How are you supposed to find love if you don't put yourself out there?
All of those dating rules that people keep saying that we should follow are totally bogus! This may be an unpopular opinion but there’s no such such as giving too much information on your first date. If you want to find love, you've got to be completely honest.
Okay, we're just going to come out and say it. When it comes to dating, there is no magic marker that is going to automatically erase every little thing about your partner that you want to get rid of. That includes all of those quirks that you thought were totally endearing in the beginning (but now just find them to be pretty annoying). Here's the real reason why you can't change him.
Hitting a rouch patch in a marriage can be really scary, especially when thinking about all of the research that shows that couples tend to call it quits around this time. Who's to say that we'll come out of this stronger than before? How do we even end this cycle, anyway?
Just the thought of having a relationship where we get butterflies every single time we're with our partner puts a smile on our face; it makes us want to believe that real love is all about connecting with someone without the physical. But one thing that people don't realize is that sex actually plays a key in maintaining our relationships and making them last!
After jumping back into the dating game, we've all been guilty of letting our nerves get the best of us. From worrying about how smooth we're coming across or wondering what he really thinks of you, being stressed out is pretty much a given. But ladies, we're going to have to draw the line at letting your insecurities take control of how you approach your date.
We think it's safe to say that we've all had that one date that set the bar for everyone else — Where he has that "Je ne sais quoi" (that "IT" factor) about him that totally pulls us in and makes us what to know more. It's pretty much a given that how we carry ourselves can play a major role in our well our night ends. So when it comes to the dating game, how do we get that "it" factor, exactly?
After coming out, one of the reasons why it's sometimes hard for us to find love — or jump back into the dating field, for that matter — is because we end up getting in our own way. It makes sense that we're so caught up in figuring out the protocol for asking a woman that we miss out on a lot of opportunities. That being said, are there any dating rules that we can follow to make playing the field easier?