Bullying can be described as aggressive behaviour that is intentional and involves an imbalance of power or strength. Often patterns of abusive behaviour becomes evident over time. Victims or targets sometimes downplay the violence and damage to their self esteem, hoping it will just go away or at least get better with time. Bullying and aggressive action rarely stop without some sort of intervention. Bullying is not strictly a behaviour of the young and not all bullying involves fighting. Bullying, in all forms, is an attempt to steal power from someone else thus empowering the bully. There is no single reason why some people attempt to take advantage of others, but those who intimidate and manipulate often use aggressive tactics.
"Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me" I remember this song from my childhood. It was what parents often said to their child(ren) when they came home crying or upset about something another child said to them or about them. We were made to believe that words don't hurt. As an adult, I completely disagree with this. Words do hurt! It's often the words from loved ones that hurt the most.
Negativity is often a huge part of divorce, even when the divorce is conducted under the best of circumstances. In many cases a negative attitude habitually becomes the norm. When was the last time you paid attention to your self-talk? Are you telling yourself that you are fabulous, pretty, intelligent and amazing? Unfortunately, it is most likely, I can't do that, I'm not good enough, my body is too large, I don't have the right degree and...on and on and on! Sound familiar? Jill Bolte Taylor, Ph.D.
Mel Gibson's estranged wife is defending him against the allegations that he verbally abused and hit his ex-girlfriend Oksana Grigorieva. "Mel never engaged in any physical abuse of any kind toward me before, during or after our marriage," Robyn told the California judge in charge of Mel and Oksana's custody battle.
Every year, 1.3 million women are victims of domestic violence and one of them is my sister. While cases are severely underreported because of the fear and denial common in abusive relationships, the US Department of Justice estimates that 25 percent of women in the US are or will be a victim of domestic violence. Read one sister's story and find out what to do when someone you love is in a violent relationship.
A recent Israeli study concluded that domestic violence between couples typically occurs as a calculated decision from the inflicting partner. The aggressor typically knows what sort of consequences he or she will face and weighs it before acting out. "Someone who uses verbal violence might well move on over time to threatening physical attack, and from there it is only downhill towards acting on the threat," one of the researchers says. In other frank words, get out of the cycle now!
Before I was married I always assumed that my threshold would be "If I'm unhappy in my marriage, I'm out of here." After we were married and we had kids my threshold evolved into something like, "If he ever lays a hand on me in violence, or becomes verbally abusive, or cheats on me, then I'm out of here."