When You Must Leave
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When You Must Leave

I am often amazed that a woman who has been beaten will not or cannot leave the batterer.  Leaving would be the most instinctual and self protective thing to do.  In my clinical practice I’ve heard women make excuses for the batterer and talk about the times when it is really good between them.  Usually such times are referred to as the making up, honeymoon period.  From where I sit, this is a lull that lasts roughly six weeks between episodes.  When the beating stops there is overwhelming relief, and often a powerful high.  He is attentive, contrite a

What to do?
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What to do?

I am 40 years old. I have recently ended a 15 yr relationship, we have twin autistic boys together. The thing is that the reason why we split up was because he abused me over the years, verbally and physical. In april of last year he was drunk and got mad at me and smashed my face into a wall and choked me. So i called the police and he spent 6 months in jail for it. During that time i had met somebody else. I have feelings for him. Im like a giddy school girl when it comes to him. I smile when I think about him, when he texts me, when he calls me etc...

How Do I Know It's Manipulation?
Don't let people push you into corners.
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How Do I Know It's Manipulation?

Are you feeling resentful, ashamed, guilty, and/or anxious? Are you serving others' interests and not your own? You may be a victim of manipulation, and this personal development coach has a few tips to get you out of that corner.

I Was Married To A Bipolar Sociopath
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I Was Married To A Bipolar Sociopath

January 18, 1996:  I remember that day as clearly as if it were yesterday.  It was the day I left Jason.  The day I was to start a new life.  I was standing outside the back of the office building where I worked in Buckhead (Atlanta).  I was waiting for him to pick me up from work.  He had my car; it was our only car left after the other one had been repossessed.  I had lost everything, including but not limited to my self-esteem.  That had gone long ago.  Yes, it was the day I would end a seven year relationship filled with lies, betrayal, de

Three Essentials To Back Off Manipulators
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Three Essentials To Back Off Manipulators

Our everyday life is full of manipulation whether we are aware of it or not. Some salesman on the doorway, some doctors, some teachers, some officials, or some co-workers might use unfair communication tactics to get what they want. The difficulty is more serious if the manipulator lives with the family, not to mention if the manipulator is our otherwise beloved partner. S/he can be wonderful in various areas in our life but they still might use debilitating pressure on us towards others.

6 Warning Signs You're In An Abusive Relationship [EXPERT]
Love shouldn't hurt.
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6 Warning Signs You're In An Abusive Relationship

I was wondering: how many people get into these situations, when their partners, who are suppose to give them love, appreciation and support, turn against them? Still, others might wonder why they are not leaving their abusive partner, as well. Once in a while, most of us get handled in a non-respectful way, and it would be irresponsible to break up after every conflict. On the other hand, the unfair but usual maneuver of an abusive partner who makes the victim believe that she or he is responsible for the bad turns of events is completely unacceptable.

Are You Trapped In An Abusive Relationship? [EXPERT]
Do you think you might be a victim of abuse?
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Are You Trapped In An Abusive Relationship?

If you grew up in a verbally and/or emotionally abusive family, you might not realize when you are being abusive and when you are being abused. Behind verbal and emotional abuse is always a desire to control the other person — to have power over the other's feelings and actions.

15 Signs You're In An Abusive Relationship [EXPERT]
Love doesn't have to hurt.
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15 Signs You're In An Abusive Relationship

It may be easier to avoid an abusive relationship if you're able to detect the early signs. The following is the listing of the "15 Warning Signs of an Abusive Relationship" that The Women's Center distributes to women seeking domestic violence counseling. This may be a helpful tool for you or a loved one to review in planning not to enter into, or stay in, a potentially abusive relationship.

Sticks & Stones: Could You Withstand A Verbal Attack?
Sandra Fluke radiates with confidence!
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Sticks & Stones: Could You Withstand A Verbal Attack?

I am a life and health coach and my blogs tend to focus on fun stuff like vegetables and food labels and how to get out of your own way when you’re trying to lose weight. I never thought I’d wade into anything remotely political, but the recent events involving Georgetown law student, Sandra Fluke have provided such an important lesson, for anyone, about knowing who you are and rejecting other people’s version of you. On a much, much smaller scale, I see this in my coaching practice all the time. Fortunately, none of my clients have been called derogatory names on a national radio show! Have you ever been accused of doing something or being something that just wasn’t true?