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UNCONDITIONAL LOVE

What To Do When Attraction Fades [EXPERT]
Remember that outer beauty fades over time.

What To Do When Attraction Fades [EXPERT]

Can your relationship last if you're not physically attracted to your partner?

It might just be the last taboo: admitting you don't find your partner physically attractive anymore. In a culture that worships physical beauty and encourages you to place attraction somewhere near the first spot on a list of non-negotiables when choosing a marriage partner, admitting that you don't always find your partner attractive is considered blasphemous and a valid reason to walk away.

The Secret To Making Your Marriage Last [EXPERT]
What does it take to love someone unconditionally?

The Secret To Making Your Marriage Last [EXPERT]

We all know what it takes to keep a marriage alive but are we brave enough to do it?

I do know the one fundamental thing that keeps a relationship together. And I'm sure that almost everyone reading this knows it already, too. Maybe, you just haven't thought about your knowing it. It's the one thing that determines how long a relationship lasts, whether it's a marriage, a friendship, or any other kind of relationship.

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Yep, that's right, it appears she forgave him.

Right & Wrong Things To Tell Kids About Chris Brown [EXPERT]

What did you tell your children about Rihanna being friendly with Chris Brown again?

When Chris Brown smashed Rihanna's face up and bit her, there should have been no question about what a child learned from their parent. If you didn't reveal your opinion about her return, your silence is sending a message of acceptance. You have to come down heavy on violence against women being wrong and back it up with supporting actions — like telling your kids no buying Brown's music.

Unconditional Love In a Relationship With Conditions

Unconditional Love In a Relationship With Conditions

Can You Accept Him For Who He Is and Still Get Your Needs Met In the Relationship?

Is it possible to get what you need emotionally and sexually in a relationship with your man while still accepting him entirely for who he is? Yes. I want to take a moment to touch on this difference between unconditional love and a conditional relationship. First, let's talk about unconditional love and what it means to love a man unconditionally in a realistic, applicable sense, by comparing it to one's journey to self-love.

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10 tricks you can learn for long-lasting love!

10 Ways To Make Your Marriage Last 10 Years [EXPERT]

Ever wonder how some couples make it work for years on end? Find out here.

Contrary to what you may have heard, marriage is not burdensome. When you are married to the right person, building a life with your spouse is not an arduous task. For several years, friends, colleagues, relatives, and acquaintances have asked me the secret to my marital success. I want you to know there is nothing esoteric about being in a happy, loving relationship or achieving a 10 year wedding anniversary. Moreover, if you assess your relationship in these 10 categories, as well as follow your visceral instincts, I promise you will find your way to lasting love!

Is my son gay?

Think Your Child Is Gay? You Probably Don't Need An App For That

Technology's no substitute for openness in any family.

According to En Moi, the makers of the "Is My Son Gay?" application for the Android phone, it was only supposed to be a joke. It came under immediate controversy, and was officially pulled from the Android marketplace last Friday afternoon. Although it was clearly mired in offensive stereotypes, and was devoid any scientific research, its very existence likely left some parents thinking: Wouldn’t it be nice if we did have an app for that? Having the traditional birds and bees talk with your child can be complicated enough, let alone discussing all the added intricacies of sexual orientation. However, in our current culture of gay teens committing suicide, and of the recent decision to overturn Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell, it is more important than ever for your children—no matter what age they are—to know that they can come to you and discuss these things openly.

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Are You A Good Listener?

12 things that keep you from hearing what's really being said.

We often think we are listening to someone, only to realize that we missed what they said. Either we were busy listening instead to the voices in our heads, or we were distracted by whatever was happening around us. When people ask how they can have better relationships with others, the first thing suggest is active listening.

Challenge of Your Life--Investing in Your Relationship Fantasy

Challenge of Your Life--Investing in Your Relationship Fantasy

Why hiring a coach for your relationships is the best investment you can make in your health & life.

What is the best use of your money? Is it a membership to a gym that you'll only use a quarter of your time? Is it buying fresh, local, and organic? Is it investing in gold? Or is it investing in your relationship skills? Most of us come from dysfunction. What this means is that no one comes from the perfect family. If we were perfect, chances are we're not human or we're not from earth. This is where a coach, rather than a therapist comes into play.

Dreams: Your Internal Compass

Dreams: Your Internal Compass

Dreams tell us what we need to know; but don't in our waking lives.

What if you had a source of information that offered guidance and a commentary on whether you are on the right track - professionally or personally? Would you be interested? I challenge you to deny skepticism for a brief moment and consider the possibility that within your dreams is an untapped, hidden source of self-knowledge. Dreams tell us what we need to know but don't in our waking lives. (Robert Johnson)

Small Acts Show Our Unconditional Love

Small Acts Show Our Unconditional Love

We live in a world that is hurting. My question to you is what do you do on a daily basis to make a difference in someone’s life? Last week I found out our family friend died. Oftentimes we get so busy with the to-do lists in our daily life that we miss spending time and telling the people that matter most to us how pivotal they are in our lives. Why do we do this? And, more importantly, what are the ways we can show unconditional love to the important people in our lives?