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Eating lobster is a big-time turn-on for her.

Love Bytes: What Turns YOU On?

Plus, 15 ways to impress him.

What really turns us on? A BMW motorcycle led to 2 years of priapism. Do you know what clausterphilia is? How to impress him and his bros. What not to do when a bachelor party ruins your golf outing. What our grandparents can teach us about marriage. 10 apps to keep us on the same page. Should dudes get alimony? The Sex And The City apartment was just sold! 10 Mother's Day gifts even a mother could love. How to work through your guy's family drama.

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Men love brunettes in red dresses. Science says so.

14 Things Men Love, According To Science

Men's turn-ons include the color red, cuddling, boobs and pumpkin pie. Fascinating.

I had a good chuckle over Made Man's list of Things Science Says Women Love. Apparently we are all suckers for homosexual men who look like our dads and don't smile. Thanks, science! Oh, the image I'm conjuring right now is unsettling. Anyhow … I felt inspired to roundup a few of the things science says men love.

woman fixing car
Are you handy with tools? That could turn a man on.

10 Surprising Things That Turn Men On

Men are unpredictable: They have some surprising turn-ons.

Men are both exceedingly complex and irritatingly simplistic creatures, so it makes total sense that the following 10 surprisingly everyday things are the turn-ons that really work.

Women:  1 Surefire Way to Turn a Man Off Immediately

Women: 1 Surefire Way to Turn a Man Off Immediately

Ladies! Are you turning men off? Read below to find out what topic to avoid when conversing with men

Just a couple of weeks ago, a good friend of mine (Demetri) shared with me an interesting experience he had while on a date. The date started off wonderfully. Demetri's confidence was at an all-time high--he was dapper and his date looked nothing short of ravishing. He took her to Folk’s Folly for some fine wining and dining. After all, she was gorgeous. Demetri wanted to see what else she had to offer.

hamster in a teacup
Hamster in a teacup!

Could Your Pet Be Turning Men Off?

Both men and women have strong opinions on pets. But there's one little furry creature we agree on.

When I think of pets, my brain immediately jumps to dogs or cats. As an adult, animals like hamsters, snakes or spiders never even cross my brain. But according to a new study, I should reconsider.

Love & Fashion: A Dress That Does The Flirting For You?
This dress turns clear when you get turned on.

Love & Fashion: A Dress That Does The Flirting For You?

Would you wear a dress that clearly shows a guy you're interested in him?

I introduce you to the most important invention in the history of the (dating) world: the transparent(ly obvious) dress. Okay, "history of the dating world" may be an exaggeration, but for women who have a hard time communicating their desire for a certain guy, well, now there's a dress that does the flirting for you.

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5 Behaviors Women Think Are Cute, But Turn Men Off

Just because men behave badly doesn't mean women should. We're the fairer sex, after all!

I'm convinced that women hold secret meetings in the middle of the forest somewhere on some Harry Potter tip discussing what turns men on. The only problem is the leader of the meeting usually resembles the wicked witch of the Wild West, not only in appearance but in demeanor as well.

Top 5 (Best &Worst) First Date Conversations

Top 5 (Best &Worst) First Date Conversations

First date frenzy: If religion, politics and exes are off the table, what will we talk about?

Uncomfortable silences, awkward pauses. We've all been in those kinds of conversations. But they can be ten times worse when they happen on a first date! So, how do you keep the conversation flowing? We asked Dan Abelon, co-founder and CEO of SpeedDate.com for his top five first date topics.

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What Are The Sexiest Hobbies For Women?

It's summer: Get active AND turn a guy on. Two birds with one stone, ladies.

There's nothing sexier than a woman who knows what she's doing, whether it's in a relationship, in bed or with a set of oil paints. Love is so much more than, well, love: It's about sharing common interests, and enjoying activities — hobbies — both together and apart. That's why we're overjoyed that it's Get A Hobby Week over at The Frisky. But can we top their 10 Hobbies Guaranteed To Make Any Woman Sexier list? Yes, we can. Here are the top 10 sexiest hobbies for women, straight from our staff.

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10 Ways Women's Turn-Ons Change As They Age

Ladies' lists of turn-ons and turn-offs mature with age.

Ladies, older definitely means wiser, but that doesn't just apply to your intellectual prowess—it applies to your taste in potential partners, too.

man stirring pot on stove

Is A Man Who Cooks The Ultimate Turn On?

What women want: one man explores the phenomenon of cooking as a turn on.

All this time I had simply ignored the fact that Coop was this incredible cook, and that his cooking seemed to effortlessly delight women, while I was walking around the party like a mildly concussed Dane Cook. On my lonely cab ride home, it hit me: I needed a skill. Coop's skill. The next day I called him and asked him to take me under his wing.