This year, add a new resolution to your list: "Don't tell lies."
You know how you make healthy New Year's resolutions every year like "eat more broccoli" or "actually use my gym membership?" You might even make these resolutions before the new academic year picks up in September, or before your schedule gets more hectic in the fall after the lazy days of August. Well, this year, add a new one to the list: "Don't tell lies."
It's that thing that nobody wants to discuss but everybody puts up with. Here's how make it vanish!
Every now and again you come across a situation in your life that blows your hair back, your skirt up or...just blows. For example: you find out the person you're seriously considering spending the rest of your life with isn't interested in a long-term relationship with you. Or you discover one evening, quite by accident, that your husband prefers blondes...who are hung like a horse.
Sensitive topics can be tough for couples to address - but avoidance can lead down a dangerous path.
It’s understandable that couples are wary about bringing up sensitive topics. The avoidance of pain and distress are major motivators to go into hiding. But too much avoidance can lead to marital corrosion. So how can this difficult problem be managed? Because of the extra length, this month’s column is divided into two parts with the second part finishing next month.
We don't want our kids to lie and we discipline them when they do. But wait,what about us? Do we lie
Do parents lie to their kids? Do kids tell lies? Why do we lie, often when the truth would serve us better?
We recently had a group of friends and relatives in our home for a dinner party. After some great food and general conversation, I asked them to help me with this project. Everyone was supportive and eager to assist in writing a book. But when I asked them to tell me why they lied, there was a shocked silence.
"THAT DOESN'T W0RK FOR ME."
I spend most of my time working with clients to focus on the positive in their lives and relationships. We uncover limited beliefs and create new empowering ones. We discover values they didn't know they had and then we cook up a vision for their life that begins to unfold like magic.
We do all of that and more. After all that wonderfully fulfilling work there comes a moment where I have to break it to them gently.
Study shows we're more likely to reveal sensitive info via text than through a phone conversation.
Some may say there is a downside to our tendency to text, but there are plenty of perks associated with simple SMS messages. Thanks to sexting, you could be in a crowded room but still telling your boyfriend all the dirty things you want to do to him later. And, on the tamer (and potentially less harmful) side, texts are the best way to get someone to reveal the truth.
Why your doubts about the relationship may be a sign of growth rather than trouble
One question that comes up often in my practice as a couples therapist is the issue of "falling out of love." You’ve been in love with someone for 6-12 months, maybe longer, and you start to wonder whether this is going to last. Are you going to stay together, settle down, or is it time to move on? If the latter is on your mind, what happened?
I have checked these things off my list and now I am here to help you do the same.
For The Conscious Woman With a Conservative Background
I have checked these off my list (although always working on it!) and now I'm here to help you do the same.
Wake up with more excitement for the day to come.
Experience more motivation to take better care of yourself.
More passion, purpose and direction in life.
...even if you thought you wanted it! Here's how to make it safer before your date.
I am not here to say sex is right or wrong—it isn’t…right or wrong. It’s a biological function often associated with heavy breathing, sucking face, and a bleary anticipation, however repressed, of Happily Ever After… unless, of course, it’s not! Which is rare, unless you’re a pro at shutting off your feeling center. In any case, it’s precisely the After part that I am after right here and now.
This concept first was presented to me by my first true love. I remember the moment clearly, though I have to admit, it happened nearly 40 years ago!
I was sitting on the stairs of the art museum waiting for my art class to begin. His name was Dennis and I had certainly noticed him before this moment. His good looks and confident swag were hard to miss. I had not, however, considered him as a possible love match - until that moment.