"THAT DOESN'T W0RK FOR ME." I spend most of my time working with clients to focus on the positive in their lives and relationships. We uncover limited beliefs and create new empowering ones. We discover values they didn't know they had and then we cook up a vision for their life that begins to unfold like magic. We do all of that and more. After all that wonderfully fulfilling work there comes a moment where I have to break it to them gently.
Some may say there is a downside to our tendency to text, but there are plenty of perks associated with simple SMS messages. Thanks to sexting, you could be in a crowded room but still telling your boyfriend all the dirty things you want to do to him later. And, on the tamer (and potentially less harmful) side, texts are the best way to get someone to reveal the truth.
One question that comes up often in my practice as a couples therapist is the issue of "falling out of love." You’ve been in love with someone for 6-12 months, maybe longer, and you start to wonder whether this is going to last. Are you going to stay together, settle down, or is it time to move on? If the latter is on your mind, what happened? Sister Souls
For The Conscious Woman With a Conservative Background I have checked these off my list (although always working on it!) and now I'm here to help you do the same. Wake up with more excitement for the day to come. Experience more motivation to take better care of yourself. More passion, purpose and direction in life.
I am not here to say sex is right or wrong—it isn’t…right or wrong. It’s a biological function often associated with heavy breathing, sucking face, and a bleary anticipation, however repressed, of Happily Ever After… unless, of course, it’s not! Which is rare, unless you’re a pro at shutting off your feeling center. In any case, it’s precisely the After part that I am after right here and now.
This concept first was presented to me by my first true love. I remember the moment clearly, though I have to admit, it happened nearly 40 years ago! I was sitting on the stairs of the art museum waiting for my art class to begin. His name was Dennis and I had certainly noticed him before this moment. His good looks and confident swag were hard to miss. I had not, however, considered him as a possible love match - until that moment.
Secrets are felt energetically so it’s important to share and be clear with your partner, and to be truthful with yourself. Share your fears with your partner because secrets can threaten the trust. The place from within that is holding the secret can shut down your heart and create a barrier in the relationship. It’s important to keep an open flow of communication. If you are hiding something, an open heart will sense it.
My "Stop, Drop, and Roll" technique is my tried and true, all-time favorite method for avoiding Relationship Groundhog Day (the insanity of doing the same thing over and over expecting a different result), which is what we do when we make impulsive, unconscious choices like calling an ex when we know better.
Reality and truth travel a very narrow path. What is the truth? It actually is a perception. There is no proof in the universe that anything is a truth. Many things perceived as truths have been disavowed after more is discovered. So in terms of relationship, where is the line between truth and a lie, or truth and dishonesty? What does it mean to have truth in a relationship?
Great dress? Check. Wonderful New Year's Eve gathering to attend? Check. Hot guy on your arm? Check. Champagne for the toast? Check. New Year's resolutions created and posted on the fridge, laying on your nightstand or inside of your iPhone? Check. Then you are all set to ring in 2012, right? Hmm...not so much.
Are you yearning for someone to love? Or are you in love and want to be sure it will last and grow deeper and richer with time? These are wonderful goals—and so few people achieve them! You can be one of these lucky ones if you don’t fall into the hidden traps that make loving so difficult. For that you need to bring your understanding and practice of love to an entirely new level.
How many relationship rules have you heard in your life? Too many to count, I’d bet. “Wait three days before calling.” “Laugh at his jokes and act very interested.” “Tell him you have plans (even when you don’t) and act disinterested.” “Don’t drink too much, talk about your ex, or have sex on the first date.” The underlying message in all of these rules is “ignore what you want and who you really are and play a role that’s not really you.”
The biggest culture shock that immigrants experience is not between their country and the US, but between what they thought the US was vs. the way it actually is.