Should You Trust Him?
Phone sex is popular for a myriad of reasons. Number one, it's safe. You literally talk your way to a place where you want to touch yourself. No protection needed. Phone sex can also be intensely intimate, and it can bring you and your partner together, even if you happen to be on separate coasts or in different countries.
It's definitely not the type of light and airy chat you want to strike up on your first starry-eyed date. Let's be honest: Dredging up the past and owning all things that went right and wrong can be about as pleasant as having a root canal. But precisely because spilling the beans requires such a high level of comfort and trust, a Q&A session (topic: all things past) with your guy can bring the two of you closer in your relationship.
Oxytocin is quite a busy hormone. When released in the brain, it facilitates sex, orgasm, birth and breastfeeding, as well as feelings of bonding, connection and trust. In her forthcoming book The Chemistry of Connecton: How the Oxytocin Response Can Help You Find Trust, Intimacy and Love, author and journalist Susan Kuchinskas describes the important role oxytocin plays in our love lives and how we can train our brain to better respond to love. In other words, we weren't born knowing how to love—we learn it.
New research shows that breaching trust in a young relationship spells doomsday, whereas longer-lasting relationships have a better chance of recovering from a trust-breaking blow. In the study, college students were observed in two game-playing scenarios: one where their opponent cheated or otherwise breached trust early; the other where trust was broken after a length of time. Players in the first group were much warier about forgiving and reestablishing trust than those in the latter.
At what point in the dating process should you start looking into your crush's criminal record, professional history, and offshore investments? Is there any right time? And what will you find out if you choose to start poking around? The New York Times has some answers, and so do we.
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Why is it that we so often hear about high profile men cheating, but we rarely hear about women doing so? Perhaps it's because societal structure combined with differing motivations for infidelity mean it's simply easier for men to cheat. In an MSN.com/iVillage survey of 70,000 people, taken last year, female respondents were twice as likely to use an affair to get out of a relationship. They also cheated to find a better emotional connection or to be with someone who made them feel sexy and desirable. Men, on the other hand, said they cheat for sex--more sex, better sex, variety of sex. Sex, sex, sex.
Last week, a friend of mine told me her husband left her and their new baby. No warning. No precursor. No raging fights or discussions of working things out. He told her he was “unhappy,” then he left. This news smashed a gaping hole in the picture of marriage I had formed in my head. I know no relationship is perfect, but still—when I meet a married couple that recently had a baby, the furthest thought in my mind is that one day, he or she will up and leave. It’s shocking to know that someone can even do that, can bring themselves to be that irresponsible, that selfish. I thought they were happy and stable. I thought they would live the rest of their lives together with their beautiful child. Obviously my friend did, too.
Never mind those two famous planets—researchers at the California Institute of Technology and Baylor University have found new evidence that male and female earthlings are wired differently. The documentation: Brain scans detailing activity in men and women playing an investment game with an anonymous partner. One subject received 20 monetary units and could keep them or invest any portion with an unknown “trustee” subject in another lab, miles away. The money invested would triple every time, but the trustee could choose how much of the profit to return to the original investor. The invest-and-return cycle ran up to ten times, while a functional magnetic resonance imager, or fMRI, captured pictures of local brain activity, scanning the players’ brains every two seconds.
She just can’t resist going through her boyfriend’s personal belongings, but sometimes snooping leads to more harm than good. By spying through his writing she finds his secrets and an invasion of her privacy. It turns out word, especially the Big Words, really hurt. Victoria Hirschfield finds this out the hard way when what she found was a dagger to her heart.