Red flags that say he's still carrying a torch for his former flame.
Nothing is worse than meeting a cool new guy, but getting the sinking feeling that he might not be over his ex. And sadly, your gut instinct might be correct because lots of newly single people jump back into the dating scene before they are really ready, trying to fill a gaping hole in the heart.
If you want to be more than his rebound girl, it pays to notice if he's really ready for another chance at love. The number one factor that produces readiness? Emotional availability. His heart, mind, and body need to be free to be given to you, which means he's no longer offering those parts of himself to her.
I think I am “monogamish”, a new term coined by Dan Savage in The New York Times Magazine several weeks ago (Married, with Infidelities). If you read the NY Times best seller Sex at Dawn which makes the case that we humans are at our core non monogamous creatures – you will know what I mean.
Trust, to be real, is like peace and love: it has to come from within.
Last week I wrote about the three layers of trust in relationships. Since then I’ve been noticing how and when I trust people and situations, as well as how and whether others trust me in our interactions. What I’ve noticed is that my own ability to trust runs deep, and that my deep trust is contagious. It’s not universally contagious, but it has the potential to be. This deep trust carries with it a strong sense of peace and well-being, as if all is right with the world, even when appearances seem to deny it.
Are you aware that the Chakra system can be used as an instruction manual for your relationships?
You probably are familiar with the old traditional Chakra system philosophy. But may not be aware that the Chakra system can be used as an instruction manual for your relationships. It can give you a strategy about how you can communicate with your inner guidance and be able to manifest your dreams and ideas into your realationships and create a complete alignment in your life Now.
If a woman has wild sex after divorce, is she more likely to cheat in her next serious relationship?
Be honest: if a grown woman has wild sex with numerous lovers after divorce, do you think she'll have difficulty being faithful in her next serious relationship? In other words, do you think women can't control their sexuality once it's uncaged?
Learn to go deeper into trust within your relationships in order to live a happier life
I often say that if you don’t have trust in your relationship, you don’t have a relationship. The ironic thing about that statement is that trust is the biggest lesson we learn in romantic relationships. We learn to trust by experiencing its lack first, navigating our emotions and thoughts through the murky waters of mistrust. A more accurate statement might be that the pinnacle of a romantic relationship happens when we learn to deeply trust our partner and ourselves.
Your most potent and revealing relationships are the mirrors of you deepest personal issues
Being in relationship is like being a pickle in the jar... Whether you want it or not, you'd be pickled by the brine inside. Long term relationships are just like that. When you stay together long enough, you either learn to enjoy the chemicals in your body produced during your interactions or you may grow to hate how you feel. In either case you become a bit dependent on the flavor your relationship gives to your life, so you may not even imagine yourself living without it.
At Mars Venus Coaching we use words like: love tank and love heater. Regardless of the terminology we use, when it comes to relationships we are all looking for the same thing: love. We want our partner to love us for who we are with our limitations, after all we’re not perfect. But can we really love our partner for who they are after we’ve experienced their daily limitations and imperfections? If we feel any blame toward our partner, it makes it even more difficult to accept, understand, and forgive our partners limitations.
If you’re like most singles today, the three little words you long to hear are NOT “Pre-Nuptial Agreement”. Yet, we’re finding, even with women taking charge of their careers, finances, and lives, more and more couples are faced with the courageous conversation that needs to take place - and it’s not easy.
One of biggest differences I see between people who have created happy relationships and those who haven’t is the act of keeping score.
If you’re keeping score you may come out on top of your partner, but the relationship will come out on the bottom.
In other words, if you’re playing to win in your relationship, you’ve already lost.
The qualities that show that your guy is in it for the long run.
A quiver of delight might go down your spine when you look at him, and he might treat you as if you are the greatest woman ever to walk into his life. But, does he have what it takes to stay in your life? Check out which qualities really make him worth hanging onto.
