I often say that if you don’t have trust in your relationship, you don’t have a relationship. The ironic thing about that statement is that trust is the biggest lesson we learn in romantic relationships. We learn to trust by experiencing its lack first, navigating our emotions and thoughts through the murky waters of mistrust. A more accurate statement might be that the pinnacle of a romantic relationship happens when we learn to deeply trust our partner and ourselves.
Being in relationship is like being a pickle in the jar... Whether you want it or not, you'd be pickled by the brine inside. Long term relationships are just like that. When you stay together long enough, you either learn to enjoy the chemicals in your body produced during your interactions or you may grow to hate how you feel. In either case you become a bit dependent on the flavor your relationship gives to your life, so you may not even imagine yourself living without it.
At Mars Venus Coaching we use words like: love tank and love heater. Regardless of the terminology we use, when it comes to relationships we are all looking for the same thing: love. We want our partner to love us for who we are with our limitations, after all we’re not perfect. But can we really love our partner for who they are after we’ve experienced their daily limitations and imperfections? If we feel any blame toward our partner, it makes it even more difficult to accept, understand, and forgive our partners limitations.
If you’re like most singles today, the three little words you long to hear are NOT “Pre-Nuptial Agreement”. Yet, we’re finding, even with women taking charge of their careers, finances, and lives, more and more couples are faced with the courageous conversation that needs to take place - and it’s not easy.
One of biggest differences I see between people who have created happy relationships and those who haven’t is the act of keeping score. If you’re keeping score you may come out on top of your partner, but the relationship will come out on the bottom. In other words, if you’re playing to win in your relationship, you’ve already lost.
A quiver of delight might go down your spine when you look at him, and he might treat you as if you are the greatest woman ever to walk into his life. But, does he have what it takes to stay in your life? Check out which qualities really make him worth hanging onto.
There are three affective qualities that need to be present and visible for a relationship to last, namely admiration, respect and trust. 1. Admiration: If you are going to share a major part of your life with another person, the other person must have some lasting qualities that you truly admire. It is less important what exactly these admirable qualities are. If the admiration is genuine, it will show in your attitude towards them. They will feel admired. Feeling admired feels great. They will want to stick around.
This girl really needs some advice: "This is a question for the guys : If your girlfriend asks you to see your cell phone and you don't, are you hiding something ? or is it really a matter of privacy ? Would you still not let her see you phone if you have nothing to hide and she tells you that's all it would take to fix your relationship? COMMENTS please." by POISON Give Poison some real advice she can use at cheatconfession
Finding a good therapist for me was frustrating. I found that while there are about 3000 therapists in Los Angeles-all of them licensed, educated and well intentioned-not all of them are right for me. This frustration led me to believe that there had to be a better way to find a therapist. I came up with the idea that by leveraging technology and psychology, a website could match people with therapists based on personality and the probability for a good ‘fit’, which was the genesis for MyTherapistMatch.com (MTM) and MyCoachMatch.com (MCM).
I liked assholes. No, I loved them, but now, looking back, I realize it wasn't just that. For the most part, every man who failed to call me was capable of calling someone else, and at a certain point, I had to face the fact that it wasn't just them, it was me. I begged for men to be unaccountable. I allowed them to be untrustworthy. And I expected them to leave.
Poll: Have You Snooped On His Email?: Yes, I snooped and it was totally justified! Yes, I snooped, but I'm not proud of it. No, I've never snooped, but I'm thinking about it. No, I never snoop and I never will.