People need to learn when you start seeing someone knew to not put that on them, because it wasn't their fault.
TRUST IN RELATIONSHIPS
If you've been around sex addiction meetings long enough, you've no doubt heard people talking about "disclosure." While there are many different ways to go through the disclosure process, I thought I'd spend a few minutes discussing what disclosure is all about and why you might consider going through it.
This past month, I have been enrolled in a 7 week therapist’s course given by Melissa Orlov on the ADHD effects on marriage. Melissa, who is an expert on this subject, and who has written the book (by the same name) The ADHD Effects on Marriage, offers its’ readers one of the most comprehensive and clearly written books that I have read on this subject.
Peggy had been married to James for 14 years when she first consulted with me for help with her relationship and her anxiety. "I can't stand being in this marriage anymore. We have two wonderful children and I don't want to break up this family, but I'm miserable and anxious much of the time. I feel like I'm always walking on eggshells and I can't be myself."
Bad news: Americans have serious trust issues. Of course, that's a broad statement, so allow me to elaborate: We don't trust our partners, which leads to snoop through their cell phones as a result.
Learning how to connect with an emotionally unavailable man is like learning how to gain the trust of a beaten dog.
When a couple comes in for therapy, I need to remember that they have been doing other things with their lives and passions, not mastering intimacy-building techniques. Usually, they are beginners and the best thing we can do in our sessions is slow down ...
A happy marriage rests on a foundation of unquestioned trust. If you want your marriage to be all it can be, you must know how to create this kind of trust. Most couples think of trust exclusively in terms of being sexually faithful, which is essential, but there's more to it.
WOW! That really hurts. When you have great expectations of a long term relationship and lasting love, you feel good about yourself and confident in the future. Then you get the dreaded Dear John/Jane letter or the pink slip at work and immediately go from the heights of excitement to the depths of disappointment. Being dumped can change your life and confidence in an instant.
When you have been seeing someone and they continue to let you down and do things that they know you would not appreciate; when is it time to cut your losses and move on? I have been seeing this guy off and on. We have not been exclusive because of the issues I have with his drinking and always having to be out. And then tonight took the cake. He puts on his Facebook a status that was so disrespectful towards me. It basically wrote that he was looking for a hookup and of course when he wrote this status he was at a bar. So everyone knew that that's what he was implying.
Love is a tricky thing. It can change you in a good way and a bad way. When you have had failed relationships more than successful ones; it is easy to close yourself off even when someone who enters your life who would be perfect for you. I have never truly been in love. I have thought in the past that I was in love twice, but now that I revisit those memories and relationships I realize that those weren't true love. They were faux relationships.Most of them used me for my kindness and took advantage of how giving I am.
We've all been there: you're having a great day until you log on to Facebook and see that some girl—that you may or may not know—has written on your boyfriend's wall or liked his status … again. Whether or not she's a threat isn't as important as how you deal with it.
In a recent study, at the University Of Notre Dame, Anita Kelly, a Psychology Professor, reported that when peoples lies went up during the week, their health went down. Conversely, she reported that when people’s lies decreased, their overall health improved. This is amazing news, connecting our emotional life with our physical wellbeing. Anyone who has ever attended a 12 step meeting knows that addiction and lies go hand in hand.
Marriage is often considered the most sacred union two people can achieve together. But is your marriage subscribing to socially-accepted falsities? Below are six very mistaken ideas about marriage ... Are they a part of your beliefs? If so, better think again.
Strange things happen to the best of us when our sense of relationship security is challenged. Suddenly, you are bombarded with thoughts and feelings that have you spinning with suspicion and mistrust. In the worst of cases, even the most rational among us might resort to highly uncharacteristic, even objectionable behavior that brings out the worst in us. And typically, no matter what the truth turns out to be, this does not bode well for the efficacy of the relationship. 3
c. 2012 Susun S Weed (Expert) Author: Down There: Sexual & Reproductive Health the Wise Woman Way “Women can have intercourse with fire, or the steaming water of a cauldron, or with the wind.” Don Juan and the Art of Sexual Energy, Tunneshende, Bear, 2001.