Building trust, and taking responsibility are just two of the ways to improve your relationship. By thinking of your relationship like a credit score, you can improve your relationship with your partner.
TRUST IN RELATIONSHIPS
Funny thing trust! You rarely think about it when you fall in love. It’s an unspoken part of the package. The message comes loud and clear…………. you are THE special person, the centre of their world. Your happiness and well being is of primary concern and you can bask safe and secure in that knowledge. Until the unthinkable happens; you find out she’s having an affair with a colleague or he’s gone on yet another binge dropping, as per usual, all the responsibility on you.
For two years, Kora had been having an on and off affair with her high-school sweetheart, a separated man who lived over a thousand miles away. It ended when Sean, her husband, had discovered some letters in her desk drawer. Because Kora and her lover lived so far apart it was easy for Sean to validate Kora’s claims that the affair ended. Moreover, her lover had reunited with his wife and family.
"Can you believe she just did that?!" Marcy is outraged. She and her boyfriend are out dancing with a group of friends. She notices another woman checking out her guy — even though he's obviously with Marcy. At one point, the woman grabs Marcy's boyfriend and starts dancing with him. He is embarrassed but plays along and dances for a few minutes with her.
How many times have you heard the words, "If you love me you will trust me" or "Why don't you just trust me?" I don't know how those words feel in your gut but they always fill me with even more distrust than I was originally feeling. Of course any admonitions that you "should" feel trust are designed to circumvent your internal warning system. Whether that is accomplished with assurances or threats or attempts to shame you doesn't really matter. The end result is the same.
Dating isn't always easy, and neither is building a relationship. So, women often stay in relationships that are not quite right, believing the rough spots will smooth themselves out. After all, no relationship is perfect so you have to expect some problems, right?
Question I’m dating a woman who’s really great, except for the fact that she’s constantly questioning me whenever we spend any time apart. To give you an example, when I go out with friends, she has to know where I’m going, when I’m going to be back, and exactly who else will be there.
Was Valentines Day special? Did it help you to remember that you mean something to your partner? I hope so. After all, that's the purpose of this day. However, now it's over. So, does that mean waiting another 364 days until you can be reminded of how special you are?
When a couple goes through a divorce process, many times there is the assumption by various divorce professionals involved with them that they are seeking a divorce. While on some level that may be true, it is frequently far from being their main goal. Quite often the true agenda is hidden, disguised, or not clearly stated. In my experience these agendas represent 80% of the divorce process, while the actual tasks are no more than 20% of work.
When January rolls around, tradition suggests making all sorts of resolutions. However, they all have one thing on common: They get broken. Statistically, 25 percent of New Year's resolutions are broken in the first week, and 90 percent by the end of February!
Caroline would like to say that she is a trusting person, but she’s not. She can’t bring herself to trust one of the most important people in her life-- her own husband. Before she met her husband Andy, she was in a nasty and painful relationship. Her ex stole money from her and cheated again and again and again.