Do you believe you have a soul mate? There are lots of ideas out there about the person you marry: he should be the one, your true love, your soul mate. Unfortunately, life doesn't usually work out that way. It's romantic and beautiful to believe that there's someone out there who is meant for you, who is your other half, who fits you perfectly, but putting too much faith in those notions can lead to trouble.
After five years spent researching arranged marriages and talking to over 300 women from Canada, the US, the UK, and across Europe about their experiences, author Reva Seth, of "First Comes Marriage: Modern Relationship Advice From The Wisdom of Arranged Marriages," learned some valuable lessons. Getting dating and relationship advice from those in arranged marriages might seem strange, but the success of arranged marriages (a 5-7% divorce rate versus the US average of 50%) speaks for itself. Some cultures make it difficult to find relationship happiness, often clouded by the notion of waiting for fate to bring you a perfect spouse. With a slight shift in thinking, it doesn't have to be quite so hard. Apply Seth's tips to see if the wisdom of arranged marriages can help you find love for yourself.
How do you know if he's The One? The one you'll be with forever, the one you want to marry, your one true love? Do soul mates really exist? Professional matchmaker Rachel Greenwald investigates the search for Mr. Right. "How does anyone ever know who's right for them in the long run? Everywhere I go, I meet smug married couples who love to relate the moment they 'just knew' they'd found their life partners. As far as I'm concerned, it's revisionist history; if the marriage in question has worked out so far, they say they acted on their rock solid gut. But if it ended in divorce, they confess to earlier doubts. To be frank, I don't believe anyone can really know this kind of information for sure—and I speak not just from my college relationship, or from all my years as a dating coach, but from reflecting back on my own 1992 wedding."