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The Breakup Bible
Rachel Sussman's ultimate survival guide for women going through a divorce or breakup.

10 Tips To Help You Get Over A Breakup Or Divorce

Must-read advice for those going through a breakup or divorce, from The Breakup Bible author.

About four years ago, psychotherapist Rachel Sussman started witnessing love-life chaos from every direction. Her sister's five-year relationship hit the rocks. Some of her closest friends' marriages ended in divorces. She had an influx of clients in her practice dealing with devastating breakups. And Sussman got a front-row glimpse into how women handle that horrible road through Splitsville—a topic she felt she had to tackle. She felt instantly compelled to write about it.

love
Grab on to your loving relationships & don't let them go!

5 Ways To Occupy Love

There is plenty of love to go around!

One of the biggest misconceptions about love is that love is shaped like a pie. We are raised to believe that there is one "Mr. Right", one "Prince Charming", and one "soul-mate." This absolutist thinking sets us up for failure and disturbing and unwanted feelings of jealousy, insecurity, possessiveness that don't allow for love to grow, but in fact squelch and suppress it.

sex
If you can't keep your hands off each other, you're probably doing something right!

7 Signs You're Good In Bed

Got moves like Jagger? Here's how to tell...

It's something every girl has wondered: am I good in bed? Sure, like kissing, much of it may have to do with compatibility—what might be hot for one guy could be just plain freaky to the next. But no matter what your guy's preferences are, here are the 7 signs to know that you're rocking his socks off!

whitney houston
You don't have to be a celebrity superstar to have the confidence to put yourself first!

Wisdom from Whitney: Put Yourself First

More than tragedy: Whitney's passing offers us wisdom we can apply in our lives right away.

It was September 2009 when a vibrant, yet voice-strained, Whitney Houston took the GMA stage to launch a promising and long awaited comeback. Surrounded by devoted listeners fighting to beat the heat with custom made Whitney Houston fans given out by GMA, Whitney's smile seemed to signify that perhaps she'd beaten the battle of alcohol and drug addiction that had been sadly shadowing this beautiful superstar's success. Believing she was ready to rise again, she shared her experiences with Oprah in 2009. Now less than three years later, Whitney is gone leaving us with the unforgettable light of her smile, the brilliance of her talent and our frustration over another unnecessary and tragic loss.

control freak
Being a control freak is acceptable...as long as it's in the right situations!

3 Tips To Gain A Sense Of Control

Who me? Controlling? Here's how to take control of those buttons once and for all!

When we feel out of control, we feel helpless, powerless or hopeless. When we're sick, worried about finances, feeling a sense of lack or just woke up on the wrong side of the bed, the need to be in control increases. Subconsciously, we tell ourselves we are a victim, not lovable or not good enough. We get angry at our situation and try to control whatever or whomever else we can. You can be sure that the power struggles aren't far behind as we jockey to be heard, to be right, to tell our partner how to do things. Thinking someone or something has "happened to us", we talk over one another or diverge from the agenda at hand all in the name of eliminating the uncomfortable tension of the situation. It seems like the harder we try to control another person, the more we lose it ourselves. Can you relate?

9 Tips For A Long And Healthy Marriage
You can be this happy, too!

9 Tips For A Long And Healthy Marriage

Here are nine ways to live your "happily ever after."

First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes decades of time together strewn with a minefield of potential relationship wreckers. It's a wonder that anyone ends up walking off into the sunset, hand-in-wrinkled-hand, with a silver-haired mate. What do those geriatric lovebirds know that you don't? Each decade will have its own drama, be it child-rearing, layoffs, second careers, and middle-aged angst, along with a big helping of the in-sickness-and-in-health stuff. Here's how to have a healthy relationship every step of the way.

The Ultimate Internet Sex Site For Couples - Period!

The Ultimate Internet Sex Site For Couples - Period!

Do you want to learn the science-proven secrets to having a truly great sex life?

As your Pro-Marriage Counselor it’s my duty to inform you of the best online sex site for couples; not just on the internet but on the whole planet! It’s got the coolest videos, articles and sex-questionnaires you’ve ever seen online. No, it’s not a kinky or even sleazy porn site. Besides, those lead to relationship-interfering sex and cyber addictions anyway. This site is actually designed and delivered by 2 of the world’s leading relationship experts.

Make Your Romance a Home Run

Make Your Romance a Home Run

Five tips to rejuvenate & enhance you & your honey’s relationship & keep it as romantic as possible

Baseball season is winding down, but there’s a lot couples can learn from the game to help keep their romance alive. In the beginning of a relationship, hardly anybody complains about romance, since you’re still on Cloud 9. And if you don’t know how to keep things flowing, it can eventually start to die down the longer you’re together. Here are five tips to rejuvenate and enhance you and your honey’s relationship and keep it as romantic as possible:

woman wearing LBD little black dress

Can A Little Black H&M Dress Create A Lot Of First-Date Magic?

A New York Post writer scored countless second dates with one LBD. Was it her charms or the dress?

A lot of us have silly superstitions, but who wouldn't be tempted to keep wearing a "Little Black Dress" on first dates if said dress has an 100-percent success rate? The New York Post's Christina Amoroso is the lucky owner of this seemingly-charmed piece. The writer noticed a trend emerging every time she broke out her basic H&M LBD to wear on first dates... she always got a second-date invite. Intrigued by its apparent magic, she continued to wear the dress and it continued to produce remarkable results. Crazy!

Community: 9 Ways To Scare A Guy

Community: 9 Ways To Scare A Guy

What you are doing could be chasing men away.

As a man, I have, on several occasions, been freaked out by one or more of these things.  1)Talking about having or naming babies. Unless you are pregnant or are currently in possession of an unnamed baby there should be no reason to be playing "if we had a baby what would we name it?" game. Second, the concept of a baby is scary to a man because it means they are essentially tied to you forever.

9 things I know for sure scare the sh@t out of most men

9 things I know for sure scare the sh@t out of most men

9 things that seem to terrify most men! What you are doing could be chasing men away!

How about the same rehashed, trite article you might find at written by someone who has on several occasions personally been freaked out by one or more of these things. It's all well and good having a woman telling other women how to avoid scaring men off but I think a man's perspective is golden. So here are