The quality of your love life is directly tied to the messages you send
The quality of your love life is directly tied to the messages you send. These messages stem from your thoughts, beliefs, feelings and actions. If your thoughts, beliefs, feelings and actions are not congruent, you’ll send mixed messages.
Sending mixed instead of clear messages guarantees a love relationship that is not sustainable — one fraught with frustration, disappointment and a superficial connection.
A mixed message can look like this:
12 often neglected areas to assess to see if the old still serves you or you need something new!
In our fast-paced, throwaway society, it's easy to just throw something away because you've had it a while or you're just simply tired of it. When you spring clean your life, the question to ask yourself is whether or not each of these areas is serving you or if it's time for something new! Here are 12 areas to consider.
Being nice can lead to a happier you AND a better relationship!
It's important to be nice...it will make your relationships better. Here's a little formula to help!
Someone famous once said, "It's nice to be important, but it's more important to be nice." That's easy to remember when life is good, but it's more important to remember when you're faced with a challenge, especially when that challenge is in your romantic relationship, when the tendency is to shut down or go on the attack. I've tried both of those tactics and I wouldn't recommend them if the relationship is important to you.
“Love and work are the cornerstones of our human-ness…” -Sigmund Freud
Learning how to stay and grow inside your relationship is an art form, a meditation practice and a work ethic all rolled into one. The nice thing about the work is that it is constructed of basic skill sets you can develop and strengthen just by attending to them and practicing. No one is born a great communicator or even a skilled listener.
Journaling Has a Way of Motivating People to Take Action and Improve Their Energy Level.
Journaling can be described as keeping a diary, getting your thoughts out of your head and onto paper, or reflecting on your emotions by writing them down. Want to know my definition? The acceleration of progress! I say this because after introducing an on-line journal into my health coaching practice, I immediately noticed an interesting correlation; the clients that were journaling consistently saw greater results than the clients who were not journaling.
"A couple of months ago things were so stressful at work that everyone – including me – was tense all the time. By the time I got home I was completely drained and wanted nothing more than go straight to bed."
Does the above scenario sound at least a little familiar? Can you identify with the premise if not the specific situation? If so, how long was it before your mood lifted? Did you have a serious talk with yourself, trying to convince yourself to focus on something – anything – else?
Next time you hear or read someone say that one needs to change one’s thoughts, remember that you are not your thoughts – they come and go, thousands of times during each day. Your thoughts influence you, yes. So do your emotions, your beliefs, your memories, your body sensations, etc..
When wedding season opens for business, we start to wonder what all the guests are thinking.
Weddings are inspirational: they rouse us to meditate on our own love stories, to feel our hearts swell as our friends find their life partners, and to wonder "When do we start drinking?" If thought bubbles could appear above the heads of wedding guests, here's what they might say.
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