Unfortunately, the idea of using a professional to help encourage communication and deal with issues between two individuals in a relationship is frightening to some. However, it can be a great tool that — regardless of stigma and stereotype — is even for healthy, balanced couples.
THERAPY, RELATIONSHIP CHALLENGES, TRUST IN RELATIONSHIPS
If you are asking yourself, "Is he cheating?" you probably sense something is off in your relationship. Learning to trust yourself and instincts is the key to your self-esteem. Too often women doubt themselves in favor of accepting a cheater's lies. But "Is he cheating?" is a brave question to ask. It means you are trusting your own instincts instead of the lies he's offering.
"Don't talk to single people at parties." "Mention within the first five minutes of a conversation that you have a partner." "Don't notice other attractive people when you're with me." Do you have rules for your partner? When one half of a couple makes rules for the couple, look out! Parents make rules for children, so the person who's making the rules has cast him or herself as the parent and the partner as the child. Why would either partner find this satisfying?
Do you find yourself very often inexplicably drawn to a project guy – a guy with some serious personal problems, emotional, financial, or physical, that you think you can help? Maybe it's the guy that just can't seem to hold a job, or the guy who drinks too much or has drug dependencies. The end result is that you typically find yourself in a relationship where you are caretaking for a partner, and feeling responsible for his wellbeing in one or more areas of his life. You may even be enabling his dependencies without even realizing it.
The controversy surrounding whether or not a person suffers from a sexual addiction will continue for a long time. The inclusion of hypersexual disorder in the DSM-5 will not diagnose everyone with a sexual problem, as many fear, but it will give legitimacy to the problem and allow people to get help.
A new study published by Christine Milrod and co-author Ronald Weitzer analyzes 2,442 postings written by people who pay for sex on an online discussion board that reviews sex providers and their services. Approximately one-third of the posts discussed emotional intimacy between sex workers and their clients.
Hope Springs is a great jumping off point to discuss relationships. I agree with most everything that has been written about the movie. From my perspective as a Mental Health Counselor, there are a few things that I would like to add which gives more depth and authenticity to couples counseling. I want to point out this is not an evaluation of Meryl Streep and Tommy Lee Jones acting abilities. They did a fabulous job conveying the vulnerability and complexity of the relationship between Kay and Arnold.