Whether you've known someone for nine months or nine years, it's normal to feel a little jittery about becoming legally bound and vowing to spend the rest of your lives together. If all your fiancé is feeling is a little cold feet, he'll probably snap out of it pretty quickly and will appreciate you being patient during his minor pre-wedding existential crisis. But if this lasts more than a couple weeks and you find that he's becoming more and more distant or isn't explaining his sudden change of heart sufficiently enough for you, it would probably be a good idea to re-consider your engagement.
Do not talk this over with your boyfriend. Do not give him any more opportunities to make excuses and empty promises. Simply leave. Leave him as soon as you can. Leave him tonight if you're able. Pack your bags while he's at work or at the bar getting plowed and stay with a close friend or family member until you can get a place of your own. If you lack resources, contact a battered women's shelter in your area that can provide a safe place, counseling, and assistance in getting set up in your own home. You don't have to do this alone. There is help available.
Guys can be just as clueless as women when it comes to reading the signs, especially since women have their own set of subtle brush-off techniques. After countless boring dates and awkward interactions, we've decided to let you studs in on our secrets. We've cut through the BS and compiled the signs that she's just not that into you.
Below are some online profile phrases that let you know he's a mess.
But after all this posturing as a top, something wasn't right. I felt like a fraud, like a woman trying to deny my own nature. I realized that, when I stopped thinking about it so much, sex was my way of letting go and feeling free. I was tired of making all the decisions and doing all the planning; when I get naked, I want someone else to do it for me. I like having the guy plan the date. Pay for it. Undress me. Push me up against a wall, bend me over and spank me. As it turns out, I am a total bottom in the bedroom.
Men. Who can understand them? Not me. The thing about men I understand the least is how they fight. I literally feel like I'm speaking another language when I'm arguing with my dude. Are we talking about the same thing? Did we have the same conversation? Wait, are we even on the same planet? That's when I feel like that men are from Mars, women are from Venus BS might have some truth to it.
Well, 2011 is upon us. After a year of sluttin' it up and having a grand ol' time doing it, I feel very ready to meet someone special. A boyfriend, a partner-in-crime, if you will. With that in mind, I've already made some dating resolutions for the upcoming year, and have noted the 10 types of guys I plan to avoid now that I'm looking for a relationship with some depth, not to mention an exchange of last names. Having been actively online dating for the last year, I have definitely “put myself out there,” to use the annoying phrase lobbed around by advice-filled smug monogamists, but I also think I need to be more open-minded about WHO to date. Here are the 7 types of guys to date in 2011.
On the heels of my dating resolutions list, I'm also thinking about the types of guys I've dated this year—the ones I've had fun with, the ones who've hurt my feelings, the ones who've wasted my time, the ones with whom the timing was just wrong. My girlfriends have also been through a bounty of man types and shared some of their best and worst. Some we would date again and some, well, we wouldn't touch with a 10-foot pole.
At 31, I was already a world traveler and a world-class dater. I had lived at various times in two other countries, and as the proverbial "nice Jewish girl," had dated every type of unavailable man from Orthodox to Sikh to WASP. Everything ended badly and I was starting to consider myself an expert in cross-cultural heartbreak. The way some women carry pepper spray in their purse for protection, I carried a checklist of red-flag warning signs and dating requirements. By the time my sister Skyped me to see if I could join her for a yoga workshop in the hot beach town of Goa, I had decided to take a break from love.
If you want a future with your boyfriend, you need to get over yourself and start being the girlfriend his parents want to see their son with. Start showing them some respect and appreciation. Let your boyfriend know you want his help to facilitate a warm—or at least cordial!—relationship between you and them.
It never ceases to amaze me, the myriad of ways dudes manage to f**k up dates before they've even begun. I don't want to walk into a first date with a bad attitude, but if he has the gall to ask me out and then say, "Pick a place, but make sure it's cheap," I kind of can't help it. I'm not the kind of bitch who picks Chez Chic-Chic for a first date, but if you're on a budget, why don't you pick, dickwad? Anyhoo, though I make a decent living complaining about men on the internet, I do like to pay it forward by giving unsolicited advice. Here are ten ways a dude can ensure a date is going to be a slam dunk before it's even begun.
Health.com has released a list of "10 Careers with High Rates of Depression," among them the artists, writers, entertainers category: "In men, it's the job category most likely to be associated with an episode of major depression (nearly 7% in full-time workers)." So what are jobs a potential male mate may have that could spell trouble for you down the line?
You've heard the old adage: you have to put yourself out there if you want to find someone! Well, if you're sending out the wrong signals or you aren't pursuing the right kind of people, it won't matter how much you put yourself out there—you're still going to wind up empty-handed in the relationship department. Here are eight things that may be keeping you single if you don't want to be.
I recently had a flirtation with a guy whereby we debated the merits of using Dictionary.com versus the actual hard copy, old school, book version of the dictionary. And I realized, with some degree of alarm, that this felt familiar. That this—this courting by way of words—was not a one-time thing. It was a recurring thing. It was my thing.