Do you know anyone who keeps their New Year’s resolutions? Or even remembers them after January 15? I sure don’t. Most of us vow to lose weight, quit drinking, or cut up those credit cards. But some of us make relationship-related resolutions, and that’s what we’re here to talk about. After the jump are four resolutions. One of the four is valid; the other three are less so. Let’s see if you can tell which is which.
As liberated 21st-century women, why shouldn't we engage in the same no-strings-attached behavior men historically have enjoyed? For Whitehill, she learned early on that the only thing she and her "This American Life" host, Ira Glass-lookalike had in common was sex. Without a steady boyfriend, she thought she could pull off the flings and go about her business as usual. But, as is often the case, carefree turns to caring... and analyzing... and anxiety, and ultimately we're left wondering after where all those stress-free "benefits" went. Whitehill aptly describes what we'll call "the end of the affair" symptoms:
2006 was a year of unprotected sex for me. No, not every time, but I started off the year with a fling with a slightly older man I was besotted with, who didn’t speak a word about condoms, and, in response, I didn’t either. I wanted to trust that he had some magical knowledge that somehow I was missing, that maybe the world had overturned itself and they were no longer necessary. I was wrong, and after a pregnancy panic as I searched for Plan B—this was right before it was so readily available—I escaped unscathed. Then later that year I met a guy I fell absolutely head over heels with, sure that we were destined to be together.
Right now, I'm in the most serious relationship I've ever been in; as in, even though I live in New York and he lives in San Francisco, we've talked about where and when we could live together—and how soon. He's met my uncle; I've gone to his family's cabin, and I'm joining them for Thanksgiving. His mom sends me emails, and my grandmother sends me clippings urging him to stop smoking. We talk almost every night and end most calls with "I love you." Does this make him the one? Rachel Kramer Bussel explores.
We already tried to warn you about 10 men to run from—not after, but what's dating without an occasional side of crazy? If you've recently found yourself in this situation, check out these tips for looking on the bright side of dating six types of issue-laden men. Thanks to the Frisky crew that compiled the list because what's better than tongue-in-cheek optimism on a Monday?
The Frisky asked a number of men, both on a radio show and online: What do you think of women cursing? While the verdict didn't come out to a clear "sexy" or "scummy" consensus, most men agreed that swearing, when done poorly, is extremely unattractive on a woman. And, really, the same goes for men. A well-placed curse here or there can add humor or emphasis to a sentence, but, like salt, too much of it begets the appearance of bloat and indulgence.
At some point in a woman's life, provided she's single long enough, she'll come to know what one could call dating burnout. It's like the possibility of finding Mr. Right has cried "wolf" one too many times. She's had enough of engaging third dates that never lead to number four, months-long relationships where commitment talk is taboo and otherwise feeling like she's settling for someone against her gut instinct--just because he's there. Hopeful becomes skeptical, so that when a seemingly "good guy" comes along, warning flags abound: "uh oh, we've been here before."
Do remember when PSAs ruled the airwaves? You were trying to watch an episode of MacGyver and someone wanted to let you know about the dangers of lead paint? Or back when everything had a moral? Well, we stumbled on an old PSA letting us know that everyone can get STDs. Good to know.