Twentysomethings may be too concerned with feeling good to succeed in a relationship.
It's no secret that people are getting married later these days than in previous generations, and in this culture of hook-ups and "modern female dating anxiety," we're at no loss for theories that explain why. Some people say today's twentysomethings are delaying marriage to focus on careers and build close friendships instead, but another explanation paints a less flattering picture of young people: apparently, they're all just a bunch of narcissists. In an article on The Daily Beast this week, writer Hannah Seligson, explores this theory, writing: "narcissism, even in small doses, has shifted courtship into a high-stakes relationship culture. Now that people think more highly of themselves, expectations of what a relationship should be like have skyrocketed into the realm of superlatives. Twentysomethings not only expect to waltz into high-level career positions right out of college, they also expect partners who have the moral fortitude of Nelson Mandela, the comedic timing of Stephen Colbert, the abs of Hugh Jackman, and the hair of Patrick Dempsey." Read: Are You Narcissistic?
Study shows reasons why independent women enjoy being dominated in bed.
Imagine a woman: She has a college degree and a job, she pays for her own house and car, and she's not intimidated by any man for any reason. She's smart, independent and strong.
Isn't it a puzzle, then, that she has sexual fantasies of being dominated?
Actually, researchers say, it makes perfect sense.
Unfaithful women confess why they cheated and, of course, how it made them feel.
According to a new study cited in The New York Times, infidelity is on the rise. The study also concluded that young women are closing the gap on what has largely been thought of as bad behavior for men—apparently, nearly as many women are cheating on their partners and spouses. This did not surprise me in the slightest—a large number of women I know in my age group have cheated on boyfriends. So why do women cheat? What are the circumstances that led to their infidelity? And how did they feel about it in the aftermath? After the jump, 13 anonymous confessions from women who have cheated.
Does loving your husband more than your kids make you a bad mother or a good wife?
In Bad Mother, author Ayelet Waldman encourages women to aspire to be "not bad" mothers and resist the pressure to meet the extremely high standards of success that society has for women and motherhood. Waldman wants women to stop trying so hard and just be. She argues that mothers can and should be honest, flawed, and, yes, selfish sometimes—your ability to care for your children will not suffer. Discuss: Which is harder: marriage or motherhood?
5 ways to gently tell your man how to please you in the bedroom.
Mike Alvear wrote a two-part series on how to tell a man or a woman he or she is bad in bed. For dudes, he suggests they repeatedly ask their ladies what she likes in bed in hopes she'll get the hint and ask what he likes. He also advises bringing up the conversation casually while reading the morning paper (not in bed and definitely not just after sex), and telling a woman what you want more of and not less of. For women, he makes the same suggestions, but advises them to have their conversation side-by-side and not face-to-face since, he says, men are intimidated by eye contact. His advice is OK, but it's a little passive-aggressive. I get that it's a fine line to tiptoe, but with a gentle touch a little constructive criticism never killed a guy. After the jump, five ways to let your guy know his "skills" leave a little to be desired.
Here are some don'ts to steer clear of when dating online.
Although there's still a certain inexplicable stigma attached to it, I am a huge proponent of online dating. I met my long-term boyfriend that way and the majority of weddings I've been to over the past couple years have been for couples who've met via the internet.
So whenever I hear a friend whine about how they never meet anyone, I give them the online spiel. Heck, Nerve.com should be paying me a commission because I've talked so many people into joining.
But as awesome as online dating is for expanding your dating pool, there are also some negatives. The biggest being that it can bring out the worst in people. And by people, I mean you.
Here are translations for 8 dating lines sure to be misunderstood.
I recently read Jeff Mac's very funny book, Manslations (Sourcebooks), which is basically a phrase book for ladies to help us decipher the Language of Lads. It's certainly a time-saver for those of us used to spending hours IM'ing our friends, dissecting last night's date's behavior.
But the fact is, men aren't the only ones who say one thing and mean another . . . some miscommunications transcend gender lines. Here are eight…
8 tips straight men can learn from gay porn (without watching it).
I've tried to get my boyfriends to watch guy-on-guy porn with me. They're game to watch pseudo-lesbians paw each other, but they draw the line at man love. But there's a lot a guy could learn about sex by watching two dudes go at it. So, I've decided to give guys the cheat sheet on what they could learn from gay porn.