Texting has become a primary form of communication in recent years. Relationships end and begin over text. Hurtful things are impulsively sent over text. Loving messages are sent. Requests for the grocery list or dinner are quickly communicated. Is so much texting really a good alternative for actual talking?
5 shots and 4 Guinness later! Wow, what a night! “Oh no! Did I send all these text messages?” March 18th 12:59 a.m. – “I love you!” March 18th 1:15 a.m. – “Can I come over?” March 18th 1:32 a.m. – “You are so hot! Xoxo” “Oh, s*#), what did I do? What happened last night? I work with him! I have to SEE him today! What am I going to do?
Dating Question: I waited a few years after my wife died before I started dating a great woman, who's divorcing a jerky guy. For 2 months, we've had dinner together a couples times a week. we stay in touch each day by texting, "Miss You," or "Have fun today." Yesterday, I kept my cell off while I spent the day and had dinner with clients. Later I noticed she had sent me dozens of texts asking what was wrong and saying she doesn't like to be ignored. I immediately called her to say that nothing was wrong and I wasn't ignoring her. She said if I really cared about her, I would have answered her texts instead of torturing her with my silence. She said she wasn't sure she wanted to see me again because of this. I'm confused. I enjoyed her until she freaked out over one day away from texting. Can I send you her texts so you can figure out what happened?
If you aren't texting, then you probably aren't talking to any 16-year-olds. Or most people for that matter. Texting, whether you like it or not, is now a way of life. However, as with all good things—hamburgers, the sun and Ryan Gosling—sometimes too much exposure can cause cancer. Or at least some relational difficulty.
Whether you are finding love, maintaining love, or turning to your smart phone instead of having intimacy with your loved one, smart phones have all led to a new way of love. Finding love and staying faithful have changed drastically in the past few years. Our modern day electronics have shown to have a multitude of facts to prove this is true. Did your smart phone make or break your relationship? Did it help keep you more connected with your love life?
It seems to show up on everyone's list of dating rules. Don't text a break-up. Have enough respect for the person to say it in person. Texting a break-up is rude and lazy. Blah, blah, blah. I have two complaints about this. Firstly, I really don't need to see a guy's face if he's telling me he doesn't want to be with me anymore. I don't need the visual to go with the memory. And I don't need him to see my face either, especially if I'm going to cry. My eyes get puffy when I cry. It's not my best look.
"Typical man." Ever heard a friend say that? Or be the one to say it? We're taught that for the most part, men just don't care as much as we do. We're taught that they are not as sensitive as we are, that they don't pay attention as much as we do or read into things like we do. Unfortunately, we're guilty of a lot of the same stuff.
Reading into text messages with your partner makes you closer, probably. Is Halloween a good time to introduce a fetish to your spouse or whatever? A woman can be something other than a virgin or a whore. Six types of men are very difficult to date. Man, Woman, Wild can teach you how to make your couple vacation not too terrible. Last-minute couples costumes for everyone!
Manners have gone digital. And that means you're probably asking yourself a million little questions about online behavior. When should you text your latest crush? Is it acceptable to announce your company's latest acquisition via tweet? Should you tag your friend on Facebook in that questionably attractive photo? Our online lives bring a totally new world of etiquette. Now, one swift keystroke can literally make or break a relationship, whether it's a crush, colleague, or friend. And though it's definitely not what your mamma taught you, that doesn't mean these 2.0 behaviors give you license to forget everything you learned growing up. The modern and old school need to co-exist.
There’s no denying we are a society addicted to technology. While this fact may not necessarily be a bad thing when it comes to your day-to-day life, our technological habits may be making it impossible to form ‘real’ relationships with the targets of our affection. It seems that the days of in-person or over-the-phone conversations are gone, and instead we are left with e-mail, texting, or social networking sites as the normal way of communicating, normally in 140 characters or less.
Based on news headlines, you'd think men are hands down more likely to sext (that is, for those who don't know, send sexy pictures of themselves via text) than women. But, color us surprised, it seems the opposite is true! The New York Times reported yesterday on a new study that finds women are more likely to send sexy text messages than men.
