Birds of a feather flock together and some men are bad just by association with particular locations. A book shouldn't be judged entirely by its cover, but a few things should be taken into consideration. Men are drawn to different places for different reasons and most people are not the exception.
It does not matter if you are a man or a woman, the question is the same… “Where do I meet someone?”
On top of my general gripes with what is Wrong with dating, dates and the whole dating scene, I've thoroughly plumbed the depths of my own depravity, trying to suss out what is perhaps Wrong with me, and fully explored what is Wrong with you. But today I'm going to paint a picture of the perfect date. I don't want perfection, nor do I strive for it, but I think it could be a helpful exercise to look at what I would deem an ideal situation, from how we meet to our first date. Perhaps we'll find out I'm hopeless or unrealistic or simple in my desires and tastes. I've never really thought about exactly what I'm looking for, I've only known when I haven't found it. But I think this is what it looks like ...
Maybe it has something to do with the fact that I finally watched the MTV trash hit Jersey Shore (like how I used "trash" instead of "smash"?), but I'm having a harder and harder time believing that you can find someone who would qualify as an "intellectual" in a bar or lounge or club scenario. Not everyone is interested in dating, chatting or fooling around with an "intellectual." Let's be clear, a smarty and an intellectual are not the same thing (no son los mismos cosas). A smart person is good at figuring things out and solving problems (if not getting in adventures). An intellectual is generally smart and knowledgeable (generally called book smarts*). And they're generally in the know about stuff like current events, literature, the arts and usually one specific area of science. Periodically, an intellectual, particularly the male of the species, can trend towards blowhardism.
One of the biggest challenges career women face when seeking out a partner in crime is clearly where and how to meet one. We all know the horror stories of meeting men in bars (hell, I've lived some of them!), but that doesn't mean you should write off the local watering hole altogether. The truth is, there's no right or wrong way to meet someone. A drunken fling can yield a long term, loving romance, just like a more traditional set-up, based on common values and interests, can go nowhere at all. There are, however, some strategies that can help maximize your success.
Love Bytes: three must-click love and relationship links. Finding love on tour, dating in 60 seconds and a few shy men.
Office romance is on the rise— today, 47 percent of American professionals say they've dated within the workplace—and, say experts, it's also the latest, greatest place to meet a mate. But the changing landscape brings both increased perks and perils. While some companies see it as a way to positively affect work-life balance others are leery. There are a few things to know about before turning a work spouse into a real spouse or at least romantic partner.
