We've come a long way from the days of Burt Reynolds' hairy chest to what's considered sexy now. "No Shave November," this month's prostate cancer awareness campaign, which is encouraging men not to shave for the entire month, is certainly an exception to the trend!
Ten percent of Brits have had sex on an airplane. When is the right time to sleep with someone? If you're starting over in dating, you may need a waxing. What does "cougar" really mean? It turns out that a handful of young sperm donors are fathering ALL the babies in California. Science can't come up with an explanation for the female orgasm.
Recently I've been coping with the aftermath of a breakup—not a separation from my significant other, mind you, but from my waxist. Our split was not for lack of compatibility. She works at an athletic club where my husband and I discontinued our membership for budgetary concerns. I knew I would miss my go-to gal, but I frankly I didn't realize quite how much. And I suspect my husband, ahem, misses her too.
Sex can breed a lot of things – familiarity, contempt, intimacy, orgasms, babies, hysterically awful stories to tell your friends… but the association with sex I want to address this week is insecurity.
When it comes to wooing the opposite sex, men have it easy. As far as I know, they approach you and whip out the pick-up line. Sometimes it works, and sometimes it doesn't. Women on the other hand, play a whole different game. Sometimes it seems as if our entire existence is based on impressing a guy. And it's exhausting. We don't think about it often (or we argue that we're doing these things for ourselves as much as for the men), but when you stop and take notice of all the things we do to woo the gentlemen, well, it's absurd.
In The Hairpin's Ask a Dude column recently, an advice-seeker brought up this hairy situation: who should pay for your bikini wax? She thinks the man asking for it should, writing "I always think guys should be paying for the Brazilians if they want their ladies to have them. Is that insane?"
Over the last couple of decades, Americans have been grooming more and more. I'm guessing that skimpier outfits have led women to remove more hair. And, somewhere along they way, us dudes were convinced that we needed to have hair removed, so we agreed to some waxing. But manscaping has possibly spun out of control with the male Brazilian wax. Is this something that we really need?
How important is "trimming?"
On our first date, we ended up making out in a bar on the Lower East Side. Our second date, I invited him up to my apartment. Maybe I was moving too fast, but I didn't care. After a tough breakup, I wanted to let my hair down. Which, I discovered over the next few weeks, wasn't Tobey's thing. One night I mentioned it jokingly, and he said, "I don't mind doing that at all. If a woman is well-groomed."
Women and men are wildly different. Ladies are soft, smell nice and are purty. Most dudes are lumpy/coarse, smell like motor oil and bear meat and are generally utilitarian in terms of looks. Because of your sensuality, delicateness and otherworldliness, there are a handful of sexy things you can totally get away with doing. But it is spectacularly weird and decidedly unsexy when we try the same moves.
Earlier this month, Jennifer Love Hewitt told Lopez Tonight that she once decorated her ladygarden with Swarovski Crystals. Normally, we'd say, "TMI," but after hearing about other celebrities' pubic hair preferences, we're not particularly surprised:
