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VIRGINITY

Virginity is Not Hot

Virginity is Not Hot

'He won't respect me in the morning.' The GalTime Guy says that's just crazy. Is waiting worth it?

By SMF Marcus Osborne for GalTime.com It’s been a while since I really ticked someone off. I mean, I’ve been on a serious streak of low-keyness. This is a clear indication that I’m going soft. Not that I’m intentionally trying to incite a digital riot over here, but I do try to challenge conventional wisdom and get men and women open and honestly communicating. Soooooo…. ..let’s talk virgins!

The Burden Of Being A Virgin

The Burden Of Being A Virgin

Should you wait to have sex in college?

By Meagan McCrary Being a virgin in college can be a real drag. When all your girlfriends swap stories of passionate love making, scandalous screwing and one-night-standing, leaving you with nothing to contribute to the conversation, it’s easy to feel like you’re the odd woman out. It’s also easy to feel like you’re missing out. Combine the two and you might start to feel like you should just hurry up and lose your damn virginity already!

couple kissing backseat of car

Had Sex In High School? You're More Likely To Get Divorced

Women who lose their virginity as teens are twice as likely to get divorced in 10 years.

A new study may have you regretting losing your virginity in the backseat of your high school boyfriend's car. The latest research claims that women who have sex for the first time in their teens are more likely to get divorced.

Beyonce and Jay-Z.

Did Jay-Z Take Beyonce's Virginity?

Beyonce told a British magazine that people would be surprised at her 'lack of experiences.'

Straight from the mouth of Beyonce herself: the singing sensation has only had two boyfriends and one sexual partner in her twenty-nine years of life, meaning she lost her virginity to her eventual husband, Jay-Z. When a British magazine asked Beyonce about her past relationships, she answered a little differently than they probably expected. She indicated she didn't have much experience with guys. At. All.

Couple sitting on a bed

10 Misconceptions About Sex From A Virgin's Point Of View

Dangerous, dirty or icky? Not really.

Once upon a time, I was a very sheltered girl. Sex was the ultimate taboo—I thought it was dangerous, dirty, and I failed to understand how anyone could derive pleasure from it. In high school, when my friends started engaging in sexy time, their less than positive reviews of their experiences didn't make sex sound any more appealing. It wasn't until I got to college, and started meeting more experienced, sex-positive, empowered ladies that I started to cultivate a more positive view of sexuality. And when I finally started having sex with an incredibly sensitive man, I confirmed that a lot of my fear of sex was based on fallacies and lies.

Love Bytes: Is It Your Fault You're Not Married?

Love Bytes: Is It Your Fault You're Not Married?

Why men date dumb women, friendship with an ex, and an unexpected way to catch a new guy's eye.

Love Bytes: 11 must-click love and relationship links. William and Kate's wedding website, men intimidated by female intelligence, and a surprising way to catch a guy's attention with (literally) no effort. The shocking new trend in virginity, women being blamed for being single, and when being friends with an ex will and will not work. These links, along with 10 tips for spicy oral sex.

Woman's hand holding a bible

Celibacy, Sex And My Christian Punk Youth

In her case, True Love didn't wait.

As a 16-year-old, seduced by checkered Vans and studded belts, I found my match in this scene. Tim was older, 21, and a True Love Waits virgin. True Love Waits is a contract that you have with, like, "God" and the community or something. It is a vow that you will not have sex until you're married. The church-going kids would bring the contracts to school and teachers would pass them out during class, encouraging us to sign. Afterward, the names of kids who signed would run in the town's newspaper. Which also printed the names of everyone who'd been arrested that day and for what.

Woman under the covers

Can A Virgin Ever Find Love?

Does a lack of experience equal a lack of relationship success?

The best thing I can say is this: those who pressure you for something you clearly don't want to do are not acting out of affection for you. Negative influences like those needed to be confronted and told to chill the f**k out and let them worry about their own sex lives instead of yours.

Emotional Vampire

Best Of The Web: Emotional Vampires & Hitting On Dudes

Plus why dudes don't initiate divorces and how not to hit on a man at a bar.

Why men don't initiate divorces. Put a little wiggle back in your relationship. How to get rid of an emotional vampire. How not to hit on a dude at a bar. When you realize your relationship is just an extended booty call. Eye-contact during sex? Can virgins date non-virgins. Sex And The City ruined everything. Did you know young dudes are more apt to settle down? Engagement ultimatums just don't work. What if your boyfriend still has a dating profile? Ten goofy Valentine's Day promotions. And how to make your V-Day not terrible.

Lying About Your "Number" & A Girl From Canada

Lying About Your "Number" & A Girl From Canada

Timmy Gordon's Canadian girlfriend exists! Or does she?

People aren't always the most honest about their dating lives. From virginity status to choice of partners to how much money you make, sometimes we just can't bear to tell the truth. Our favorite 50s hero, Timmy Gordon, may not be 100% forthcoming about his relationships than we would have liked.

woman with short skirt holding bag that says vote

No Masturbation? What A Boring Tea Party

Christine O'Donnell has some questionable sexual politics.

Christine O'Donnell once advocated extreme chastity... to the point of forbidding masturbation. Frankly, it's an idea that could never work. But is religious sanctimony really part of her or the Tea Party's platform?