For those ladies out there still buying the "it was just an accident" excuse from heavy-handed boyfriends or husbands, this new study serves as a another wake-up call.

According to a Science Daily report, researchers at the University of Haifa in Israel concluded that domestic violence between couples typically occurs as a calculated decision from the inflicting partner. He or she generally knows beforehand what sort of consequences there will be and weighs it before acting out.

"The violent partner might conceive his or her behavior as a 'loss of control', but the same individual, unsurprisingly, would not lose control … Read More

There are dealbreakers and then there are dealbreakers—and a past history of domestic violence is a dealbreaker on a lot of people's list. Salon.com's advice columnist, Cary Tennis, fielded a question from a former abuser who's nervous about telling his new girlfriend he physically abused his ex-wife half a dozen times during their marriage. The Frisky: Helping A Friend Who's Being Hit

After divorcing, "Ex-Abuser," as he signed his letter, entered therapy and said it helped him "understand my reasons for the abuse, and the effect it had on both my wife and our relationship." Also after the divorce, … Read More

I thought I'd had "rough sex" before; I'd been spanked on my butt plenty of times, had my hair pulled, even been caned once while strung up with my hands over my head. That hurt, and I cried, and I liked it, because I'm submissive like that, but it was just a one-time thing. I'd had plenty of encounters with talking dirty, spinning all sorts of nasty fantasies, where, most of the time, I was on the receiving end of some very hot epithets. But I'd never wanted to be choked until I got together with the … Read More

Yesterday, two of the other lady blogs wrestled over the politics of asking victims of domestic violence why they stayed with their abusers. Are you a bad feminist if you ask someone—say, someone like me—why she stayed with the guy who beat the crap out of her, nearly murdered her, and raped her on a regular basis? The Frisky: Could You Date A Man Who Wasn't A Feminist?

Double X's Linda Hirshman says why? is a question that every feminist should pose to their battered sisters. Jezebel's Megan Carpentier calls Hirschman out for being a … Read More

After being accused of assaulting his then-girlfriend Rihanna, Chris Brown recently pleaded guilty to felony assault charges. While the assault occurred back in February, not much was heard from the Brown camp until now. The R&B singer issued a video apology where he accepted responsibility, expressed remorse and promised to take steps to prevent a repeat performance. Read: The Real Reason For Chris Brown's Apology

Rihanna was able to pull away Brown, making his apology a little different than those of many other abusers as he is not an imminent threat to her. In his … Read More

Rihanna may think that she's back to making sweet music together with her battering boyfriend, but she is sadly mistaken if she thinks he will never hit her again. Men who batter rarely do it once, even if they are rich and famous. So if you're in a relationship with a guy who has pushed, hit or slapped you once, take it as a warning sign. You can expect him to do it again and again. Here's everything you need to know about batterers, from domestic violence experts Diann Ackard, a PhD psychologist on the board of Read More

Forget the $50,000 forgiveness bracelet. Don't record the duet. GET OUT NOW!

Kristen Rambler should know. The petite brunette spent two years, beginning when she was 17 and a high school senior, desperately in love with her first boyfriend—tall, dark, handsome Keith. At first, it seemed like the most loving romance in the world. But gradually the relationship turned increasingly violent.

Like Rihanna, Kristen wouldn't listen to her parents who begged her to break up with the man who was battering her black and blue. Like Chris (allegedly), Keith's favorite punching spots were her face and head. Many batterers prefer … Read More

Domestic abuse is about control and power, usually a man getting and keeping control and power over a woman. To simplify it, someone who commits domestic abuse is a control freak, and for the sake of argument, we are going to use the pronoun "he." An abuser can't feel good about himself unless he feels he is in total control of a woman and the relationship.

The abuser will use physical violence, threats of physical violence, isolation, yelling, screaming, and emotional, sexual or financial abuse to attempt to control his wife and in return control the relationship. He … Read More

The more I hear about the Chris Brown and Rihanna situation the more disturbing it becomes. I have someone I love in a violent relationship and it upsets me that violence is still so pervasive and (judging by comments that we've had to delete) and acceptable in our culture. Some of you have commented that she gave him an STD, so violence was justified. Some people have told me that they hope they get back together. While, granted, we don't know what the reality is behind this story that is still unfolding. I do think … Read More

He said "gimme some sugar, baby"...but he wanted a Mars Bar.

Marco Fella, 38, of England, bit his girlfriend because he felt angry she wore big Bridget Jones panties instead of thong underwear. And he blamed his sugar addiction!

Fella told the judge he noshes 10 Mars Bars a day and the sugar addiction's got him high-strung. So he attacked his 34-year-old live-in girlfriend two times in 10 days: first by throwing a doggie chew toy at her and then by biting her.

The Daily Mail reports:

He said he became aggressive if he did not get … Read More