Ah, Valentine’s Day. It’s a holiday celebrating love, but if you’re single or going through a break up or divorce, it can feel like just another painful reminder of your relationship status and focus you on what you don’t have. Now here is the deal, we at inTact Coaching, believe that there is a flip side to lack and that is to have. So let’s see how Valentine’s day can be a celebration of what you do have.
Do you remember Valentine's Day growing up? I do. I remember all the angst of swapping heart-shaped candies and sappy cards with my peers in class. It was a ritual at my elementary and middle-school for all the kids to exchange candies and cards. You do remember those heart-shaped candies that taste like chalk with stamped sayings on them like 'be mine' right?
One of the most difficult concepts that a lot of my clients struggle with is the notion of gratitude. I talk about this in my best-selling book Goodbye Mr Ex, where I dedicate an entire chapter to it. And yet it is possible. I have seen women who have been gang raped, had parents or children murdered finally fall into the sweet arms of gratitude to finally find the peace they have been searching for.
If this is your first Valentines Day with your new love, you can probably expect a thoughtful card, a cozy restaurant reservation or a bouquet of roses. That's what the "honeymoon phase" is all about. But what if you've been together for a year or two, and on this high-pressure day you're starting to compare "how things used to feel." You may wonder, are we still in love?
As a mom with a 20-year career in matchmaking, I expected to teach my kids some life lessons. Instead, it's my children who constantly teach me about life and love by showing me the following characteristics.
Our favorite glasses wearing, junk food loving, nerd-chic heroine has officially taken her bow. And after seven years of laughs, what better way to pay tribute to the comic 30 Rock series than to take a trip down Liz Lemon’s romantic memory lane. The show paved the way for some new funny girl’s like Zooey Dechanel’s quirky Jess and Mindy Kalling’s adorably disheveled Mindy. So in Tina Fey’s immortal words, “Ain’t no party like a Liz Lemon party cause a Liz Lemon party is mandatory.”
It is easy to lose focus of what’s important when the stores are filled with Valentine’s Day cards, gifts, and chocolates. We worry about being single, breaking up, and how to celebrate in a new relationship. Instead of focusing on your relationship status or the perfect Valentine’s date, remember the following tips. They’ll keep you focused on the important things in life, on Valentine’s Day and every day.
Would you take love advice from Johnny Depp? What about Beyonce? Some celebrities have been lucky in love, and some haven’t, but they’ve all certainly had their fair share of romance and maybe they’ve learned a thing or two.
Are you faced with a man that doesn't really see the importance of Valentines Day? Maybe he sees it as an over-commercialized Hallmark holiday that's just placed into the calendar to squeeze money out of men and create high expectations for women. This makes it difficult for you to really ask for what it is you want on V-day for fear of being judged. So, what do you do if you are a woman that wants the flowers, chocolates, romantic dinner and the amazing V-day story to tell all your friends the next day?
One might say that Valentines Day is the epitome of cheesiness, but naysayers need love too. So go ahead and skip the candlelight dinner, roses and heart-shaped boxes of chocolates, and try one of these cynic-proof Valentines Day ideas.
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