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Get Rich with Random Acts of Kindness

Get Rich with Random Acts of Kindness

There is a movement that suggests our life is the way it is because we have attracted it.

Lately, I have become aware of a movement that suggests our life is the way it is because we have attracted what is there. The “secret” says we are what we think. “Law of attraction” tells us we have to vibrate in the “vortex” to attract the good things.

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Introducing YourTango Experts Spotlight: Love Starts Within

A good relationship starts with loving yourself—YourTango Experts teach us how it's done.

When the book The Secret came out, lots of people thought it was the answer to their prayers on how to find love. The powerful messages about how to attract love exploded in readers' minds and hearts, and it all led to one amazing conclusion: finding love was truly possible—but it starts within.

Soulmates + Perfect Relationships

Soulmates + Perfect Relationships

Relationships Are Reflections of U

Relationships Are Reflections of U All relationships are based on "U" ... this is the "Universe" revolving around U and Us.  People are attracted to us based on what we are, how we appear, or what our vibration emanates.  This is "The Secret" Law of Attraction, or Universal Gravitation in action.   

Best Of The Web: Bad Dates & Four Husbands

Best Of The Web: Bad Dates & Four Husbands

Plus polygamy, The Secret and do nice guys finish last?

Eleven bad first date locales. Ten ways to reignite your passion. Seven lousy pickup moves. Using The Secret... to get laid. Do guys deny masturbating? Do nice guys finish last? Is the first date kiss going the way of the dodo? Are people more likely to watch porn when their candidate wins or loses? Yep, dudes and chicks are still plenty different. Hook up your newest "personal massager" to the Wii (for real). A woman wants four husband. And 31 days to a better sex life.

The Hell of How

I’ve been thinking about the process of manifesting what you want for the past few days. Specifically I’ve been thinking about how, for me, sometimes it seems to work and sometimes it doesn’t. And I’ve noticed that a key component to successful manifestation is becoming detached from how it will manifest. This seems counter-intuitive. After all, if you want something to happen, don’t you have to figure out how to make it happen?

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Is Positive Thinking Sabotaging Your Love Life?

Barbara Ehrenreich thinks it might be. We wonder if she's right.

Do you believe that anything you want will be yours if you just upgrade your attitude? Do you think that you can attract money, happiness and love just by rearranging how you look at the world? Do you — like millions of people around the country — love Deepak Chopra, believe in The Secret, and think that the universe gives back to you exactly what you give it? If so, then we suggest you steer clear of Barbara Ehrenreich's new book, Bright-Sided: How The Relentless Promotion of Positive Thinking Has Undermined America. In it, she argues that our national obsession with positive thinking might actually be making us stupider, and perhaps worse, sadder.

The Hot Dog Theory Of Man

The Hot Dog Theory Of Man

The Bachelor contestant judges a man by his hot dog toppings.

Besides confirmation that ABC's The Bachelor producers are indeed a bottom-feeding lot (more on this later), viewers of last night's two-hour premiere walked away with some fascinating new tidbits about love. For those who don't watch, the premise of this season's show is that Jason, a 32-year-old single dad from Seattle got down on one knee for Deanna Pappas, the most recent Bachelorette, but was ultimately dissed for a younger, "gnarly dude" snowboarder (with whom Pappas has since split). Now, with 3-year-old son Ty in tow, Jason's back on the hunt. Among the love lessons learned last night? The hot dog theory of men, thanks to Jillian, a Canadian contestant, and "vision boards" are not this Bachelor's thing. Cleavage and love poems are, however.

Seven Weeks Away From Mr. Right?

Seven Weeks Away From Mr. Right?

Why wait 7 years when you can find "the One" in 7 weeks?

If you wish hard enough, will your dream lover appear out of thin air? Author and romantic Catherine Specter road tests the latest man-hunting trend.