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Understanding Why Men Climax So Fast

Understanding Why Men Climax So Fast

With mind control, we can control our climax, but this usually requires some far-off thought.

  We’ve received this question from many women and have decided to address it here. As we often repeat, we’re here to help you understand how we think, and why we do what we do. The more you understand about us, the less confused you’ll be, and the easier it will be for you to have an open, successful relationship with the man of your dreams.

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5 Topics Couples Don't Discuss (Though They Should)

Facing taboo subjects can strengthen and enhance your relationship. Try it for a change!

Honesty and openness are important in any relationship—to get to know one another and to build trust in the relationship. But are there times when too much honesty can hurt the relationship? 5 topics couples don't discuss, 4 reasons why they don't discuss them, and 5 reasons they should discuss them.

Out of the Woodwork

Out of the Woodwork

Thinking about divorce? So are your friends -- Surprise!

For most, deciding to separate is no easy feat, especially if children are involved. The process of making this tremendous decision is usually predicated by months or even years of therapy, soul searching, self doubt and anxiety. Typically, this agonizing process of deciding whether to split up takes place in private. Perhaps a few close friends, family members or a therapist know that the couple is struggling. But, for the most part, the couple usually presents to the outside world as if it's all good (or good enough) on the marriage front.

Nudity on TV Shouldn't be Taboo

Nudity on TV Shouldn't be Taboo

You can imagine my surprise when the camera showed the reporter whipping out his penis and urinating on the metal plate. I sat in immobile disbelief, staring at his penis, thinking, “There’s his penis. There’s his penis peeing, and it is on primetime British TV.”

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Pretty Good Mom Dates, Dumps Stepson

A tale of taboo winds up in heartache in the UK.

An English woman decided that since she had the old bull, she just had to try the young calf. A man in the UK was dumped by his wife in favor of his son who was, in turn, dumped for his best friends. You'd guess the captain of the swim team would be next somewhere. But where does this tawdry tale of taboo and infidelity rank on the Woody Allen meter?

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Hug It Out! The Benefits Of Non-Sexual Touch

The value of a friend's hug and other benefits of non-sexual touch.

When we're hungry, it's simple—we eat. When we're thirsty, we drink. But what about when you just want to and need to be touched? There are no touch cafés. Touch doesn't come as a gift with purchase at the Lancôme counter. And if you're not in a romantic relationship, how do you fill up your touch tank to full? There are often not enough outlets for affection in platonic relationships. Friends provide emotional support, memorable nights out, advice and adventures, but few friendships are so close that it's comfortable and acceptable for you two to, say, snuggle on the couch together, or hold each other in a longer-than-usual embrace—one long enough to communicate sincerity but short enough not to be awkward. The line becomes especially blurred if you're of compatible sexual orientations, because, oh my god, then it must mean you like each other. But wanting to be touched is a basic human need. (Without it, we're so much more susceptible to depression, stress, anxiety, loss in self-confidence and loss in drive and motivation!) And sadly though not surprisingly, we live in a touch-deprived culture that’s comfortable with touch only if it has sexual meaning, if we're celebrating, if someone is consoling or being consoled, or if it involves raising our kids.

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Are Interracial Couples The Final Taboo?

Millenials accept interracial dating. Will prejudice will go out with the Baby Boomers?

Earlier this month, Karyn Folan's book, Don't Bring Home a White Boy, became available in bookstores. Filled with real-life anecdotes and interviews, Folan's book addresses the myriad of reasons why many black women have balked at...well...bringing home a white boy. Still, the tide may be turning. According to the Pew Research Center's recent report on racial attitudes in the U.S., the majority of millennials, "regardless of race, say they would be fine with a family member's marriage to someone of a different racial or ethnic group." Will prejudice will go out with the Baby Boomers?

Are You Secretly Masturbating?

Are You Secretly Masturbating?

It turns out both were masturbating almost daily, at about the same time in the evening without their partner knowing. To top it off, neither wanted the other to know what they were up to because they were too ashamed of their behavior. My philosophy is not to keep secrets in a relationship. I told them the jig was up. Their next step was to tell each other what had been transpiring for over three years.

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Why We Fantasize And What's Normal

Sexual fantasies: why do we have them, and what's normal?

Sexual fantasies are something we rarely discuss, even among good friends. Our deepest sexual thoughts are often considered too weird, perverse, or just plain wrong to be shared amongst polite company; fantasizing might indicate there is something wrong with our relationships, or worse, ourselves. But research indicates that having sexual fantasies is an absolutely normal, if not necessary, part of being a sexual being. It's not having them that is aberrant.