"What's that Eva? You want me to do you HOW?" might be an appropriate speech bubble coming out of Tony Parker's mouth in the accompanying photograph.

According to The Sun's "Best Sex Ever" survey of "A-List celebs," the answer for Desperate Housewives star Eva Longoria, it seems, is to be tied up with silk scarves during love making. Why We Fantasize And What's Normal

Eva, 34, said: "I’m not averse to being tied up with silk scarves, I like a man to take charge. There’s something very sexy about being submissive."

But Eva isn't fetishizing alone. That … Read More

Imagine a woman: She has a college degree and a job, she pays for her own house and car, and she's not intimidated by any man for any reason. She's smart, independent and strong. Discuss: Why are strong independant woman are considered bitches?

Isn't it a puzzle, then, that she has sexual fantasies of being dominated?

Actually, researchers say, it makes perfect sense.

In perhaps the most fun assignment ever, Psychology Today's news editor, Matthew Hutson, has been blogging about why strong women fantasize about aggressive lovers. Mmm, do tell!

Way back in 1973, researcher and therapist E. Barbara Hinton interviewed … Read More

I haven't met many men that like to be dominated on a regular basis, but most gals I know like to take charge in the bedroom, at least from time to time. Aside from obvious dominate/submissive relationships, how do regular ol' Joes feel about women taking charge between the sheets, both is subtle ways—directing the positions and the pace—and with more obvious methods—spanking, restraints, etc.? I went to the guys on my IM to find out how they feel about being dominated.

Sample answers: The Hipster Guy: I can say I don't like it all that much, that's … Read More

Sex columnist Dan Savage tackles a spankophile's sticky wicket in his Savage Love column this week: a young woman wants her boyfriend to both spank and respect her.

She writes:

"I'm a female college student and a feminist. I expect equal pay, equal treatment, and fairness when it comes to chores at home. But I have fantasies of domestic discipline. Some days, I'd like to rush home and clean the apartment and make dinner for my boyfriend wearing only an apron. Then I'd appreciate it if he'd find some excuse--something I did wrong--to spank me until I cry before having … Read More

Even if you're not sure what S&M or BDSM actually entails, the letters alone probably conjure up vivid images: Whips and chains, leather and latex, a tubby guy named The Gimp tugging on his leash as he hungrily eyes Bruce Willis in Pulp Fiction. It's common to assume that sadism-and-masochism enthusiasts are at best unusual or shocking and at worst downright depraved. But are they really?

Well, The Gimp certainly is—living in a locked crate in the basement of a pawnshop will do that to you. And anecdotal evidence does suggest that S&M enthusiasts differ from"normal" people in … Read More