Identify your positive changes post-divorce. Make it a growth experience!
A run has never returned me exactly the same. I go, I grow. Kristin Armstrong
This quote was my inspiration for revising my thinking about before and after. “Before,” as in before one of the partners goes, and “after,” as in after they go, or post-divorce. The “before” is often a rose-colored view of the way we were. It’s like when someone with whom you had a terribly conflicted relationship dies, and you remember only the good times. It’s nice, but unrealistic.
Fran, after 26 years of marriage, had decided to divorce Harry. She had consulted an attorney, told her mother and sister, put Harry on notice and then her two teenage daughters called a family meeting and insisted that their mother and father get counseling.
Fran described Harry as a negative person who found fault with almost everything she did. She felt blamed by Harry for almost anything that went wrong in their lives and for Harry a lot went wrong.
“I do” does not mean forever any more; it is, and always should be, conditional for every woman
As women, we typically give, and want, more in relationships than men. We want nice homes and solid families, not just some roof over our heads and a bunch of people co-existing together~although that sure would be easier.
Nope, we want connection, we want the fairy tale, and we want it all~but we aren't driven to nurture unconditionally as everyone expects, we just don’t admit that out loud. Women need to start honoring the conditions nature instilled in us, though, because it is women who carry the burden with the disadvantages when things head south.
Transitioning back to single life is tough: Some tips on how to deal...
By Jennifer Oikle, Ph.D., Dating Diva for GALTime
Dating should be carefree, easy, and fun, right? But let’s be honest, more often than not, dating feels like being thrown into the lion’s den where you have to fend for your life. In fact, for every stage of dating there’s a challenging beast waiting to be slayed.
What matters most is the NOW. It's never too late to make changes to your life!
By Nan O'Brien, Intuitive Counselor for GALTime
TODAY'S DAY STARTER
One of the most damaging actions you can take in your life is to not resist the tendency to live in the past. When you embrace the belief that because something has always been, it will always be .
By Marianne Beach, for GALTime
The flowers are blooming, the grass is growing—meaning it’s time for some spring cleaning. But we’re not talking about clearing out your closet or freshening up your house. Nope, we're talking about spring cleaning your love life. Yes, you heard me. It’s time to wash that guy right out of your hair.
Do changes in your relationship signify that something wonderful is lost?
So let's say you are in a long-term relationship with the guy or girl of your dreams. Or, let's say you are trying to rekindle an old relationship or you're in a situation with someone whom you have a lot of history with, but you keep sensing some things just aren't the same. In many ways it may seem that a lot of stuff from the past no longer exists in your relationship and you wonder if you can ever go back.
When a relationship is over, let go and move on in a healthy way to attract the right one for you.
When a relationship is over, it's time to let go. Holding on to a past love clutters up your heart and mind. Letting go opens up the space and possibilities to attract the partner of your dreams. Try these things to stop dwelling on the relationship you had with your ex.
Don't let children stop you from making the most of the dating pool!
Once you reach a certain age, as a single person you may have children of your own, or you may not have children, but you are dating people who do. This definitely makes dating more challenging and possibly very rewarding at the same time. Let's look at dating from each perspective.
Stop feeling down about the uncertainties of your life.Instead, focus on your happiness NOW!
By Stephenie Zamora , from GalTime
Don't worry-- You're NOT losing it!
Do you ever feel like you should be more experienced, further along or more on top of things in your life? That you should have an amazing career, the perfect husband and a clear sense of who you are and where you're supposed to be? Worse, that you should already 'be there by now?'
It's time for a reality check.