Jennifer Lopez' ex-husband, Ojani Noa, is back at it again, trying to make a quick buck of his one year marriage 12 years ago to the celebrity super-star. This time by including racy sex game footage in his "parody" film How I Married Jennifer Lopez: The J.Lo and Ojani Noa Story.

According to the National Enquirer, the Cuban-born waiter has 11 hours worth of tape that shows her frolicking around half-naked, flashing her crotch and getting spanked.

In one sizzling scene, J.Lo is looking at herself in a bathroom mirror, wearing only a bra and panties — and showing … Read More

I thought I'd had "rough sex" before; I'd been spanked on my butt plenty of times, had my hair pulled, even been caned once while strung up with my hands over my head. That hurt, and I cried, and I liked it, because I'm submissive like that, but it was just a one-time thing. I'd had plenty of encounters with talking dirty, spinning all sorts of nasty fantasies, where, most of the time, I was on the receiving end of some very hot epithets. But I'd never wanted to be choked until I got together with the … Read More

My first spanking was at my 16th birthday party. My guy friends tackled me on the kitchen floor and took turns giving me 16 spanks. And maybe one for good luck. I don't remember. Once freed, I was livid. I was mortified.

And I was totally turned on. Read: Spanking For Beginners

In the years to come, I got some playful spankings, during which I was always twisting, giggling, and trying to get out of it. My first serious boyfriend loved to smack me on the ass as a joke, as did my second serious boyfriend. The more I … Read More

Love Bytes: Four must-click sex, dating, and relationship links.

How having a "man cave" can improve a relationship. [Asylum]

Can being single too long prevent you from ever getting a boyfriend? [College Candy]

I've been single for a really, really long time. Like, super long. Super duper long. I’ll put it to you plainly: the last time I had a BF, Jordin Sparks was still competing on American Idol.

Spanking may actually bring you closer to your significant other. [Em and Lo]

Why messing with someone's birth control is never wise. [College Humor]

If a woman's sexual fantasies involve degradation, domination—rape, even—is she anti-feminist, disturbed or worse? When does sex become "dirty," and does writing erotic fiction involving humiliation mean the author is a sex-crazed, pain-loving looney? From Best Sex Writing 2009 (Cleis Press, edited by Rachel Kramer Bussel), Kristina Lloyd's essay "The Pleasure of Unpleasure" explores the delicate relationship between fantasy and reality, the risk of bringing private thoughts public and gives a glimpse into the life of an erotica writer.

All writers get bad reviews. If you write erotica, your sexuality gets reviewed as well. Trust … Read More

BDSM torture area. Check. Voyeurism peep hole. Check. Dad, grandma and sister on the payroll. Check. Welcome to the Power Exchange, a sex club unlike any other in San Francisco, California. Like a lot of sex clubs, there's a place to get spanked and a plethora of comfortable, water-resistant furniture. But unlike any we've come across before, it's family owned and operated and has been since 1995. That said, we don't think we'll be bringing Aunt Josie there anytime soon.

Bringing a third party to bed can be daunting, but vibrators, whips, bonding tape and dildos aren't called sex toys for nothing! They're meant to make partnered play time even more fun. Here, we've collected six expert-recommended options sure to spice up the sex lives of couples. Whether experimenting for the first time or shopping for a new stand-by, these couple-friendly sex toys will drive you and your partner wild.

We never would've expected shmoopy heartthrob Patrick Dempsey (Grey's Anatomy, Made of Honor, Enchanted, etc.) had a kinky side, but it turns out the man they call McDreamy's a little steamier than we thought! Dempsey told a UK paper that spanking spices up his sex life:

Romance is an atmosphere, a feeling, a mood, a place, it's in the air. It is the little things - even a spanking every now and then.

Wow, who'd have thunk? McDreamy didn't elaborate further, so we'll have to leave it to our dirty little imaginations as to … Read More

Sex columnist Dan Savage tackles a spankophile's sticky wicket in his Savage Love column this week: a young woman wants her boyfriend to both spank and respect her.

She writes:

"I'm a female college student and a feminist. I expect equal pay, equal treatment, and fairness when it comes to chores at home. But I have fantasies of domestic discipline. Some days, I'd like to rush home and clean the apartment and make dinner for my boyfriend wearing only an apron. Then I'd appreciate it if he'd find some excuse--something I did wrong--to spank me until I cry before having … Read More

It's not often that thanks to Victorian-era erotica, a 15-year-old girl experiences a sexual epiphany. But that's exactly what happened to Katherine* during her sophomore year of high school.

When her debate team stopped at a bookstore on an out-of-town trip, a friend purchased a book of 19th century sex stories. You know what happens next: on the bus ride home, a wide-eyed Katherine pored over one tale about a man and his female servant.

This sexcapade, though, had a special twist: it involved a lot of spanking.

"I thought, 'Oh my God, this is an actual thing! I'm not … Read More