It is a good idea to remind yourself of Don Miguel Ruiz' THE FOUR AGREEMENTS&apply it to online dating.
 

 1. Be impeccable with your word. (How refreshing)

 2. Don't take anything personally

 3. Don't make assumptions

 4. Always do your best 
 
Number two is absolutely the MOST important rule.  If you take anything personal in online dating, then you have no business being online. If he or she does not call, guess what?  They thought they were ready, but they are not.  Or perhaps they suddenly bumped into their soul mate, or for whatever reason – their gut told them not to meet you.  Fate … Read More

I remember being a little girl and hearing my mother use the term "soul mates." Watch: Seeking Your Soulmate? Use The Secret

"What is 'soul mates'?" I asked.

"It's beshert," she said.

"Be-what?"

"It's meant to be," she explained.

Beshert is a Yiddish term that expresses how soul mates are "meant to be together." Building on my family's unwavering faith in this beshert thingy—my parents met when they were 17 and my grandparents when they were 16—I assumed that I, too, would be welcomed into the warm, loving arms of this soul mate phenomenon. I vowed to keep my eyes peeled for … Read More

More than half of women recently surveyed by AOL Living and Women's Day magazine say their husbands are not their soul mates, that they sometimes regret marrying their husbands, and that they have considered leaving their husbands at some point or another.

A part of us finds all of this a little surprising. Another part thinks, well, duh.

Let's break things down further, shall we? We'll start with the good stuff.

Of the 35,000 women surveyed, nearly 50 percent say that their husbands' personalities were the first thing that attracted them and more than 50 percent say that their husbands' personalities … Read More

So, The New York Times (of all publications) is almost swaying us to think arranged marriage isn't that bad.

Sure, at first blush arranged marriage seems arcane. Prehistoric. Completely illogical and an almost cruel and unusual punishment. Afterall, we Westerners are apprehensive to even spend a faux-romantic evening with someone our family chooses for us—let alone a lifetime. Marriage Has It’s Charm, Partly Because Divorce Is So Lousy

Granted, we won't be trying it out anytime soon, but it had us thinking: do we, really, need to marry our soulmate? Or does marriage almost work better when … Read More

Do you believe you have a soul mate? There are lots of ideas out there about the person you marry: he should be the one, your true love, your soul mate. Unfortunately, life doesn't usually work out that way. It's romantic and beautiful to believe that there's someone out there who is meant for you, who is your other half, who fits you perfectly, but putting too much faith in those notions can lead to trouble.

Today on Ask Dan and Jennifer, Scott and Stephen Petullo list nine soul mate myths … Read More

What's a nice single Jewish girl in search of a smart, funny man doing at a place affectionately called BJ?

Capitalizing on the latest, greatest trend in matchmaking—one even your mother can get excited about.

Congregation B'nai Jeshurun (yes, their url is bj.org) in New York City is renowned as a home for hip, young Jews, and, without even billing itself as a singles organization, the congregation's twenty- and thirtysomething networking group, Tze'irim, has recently been the source of a number of happy matches.

One of those is Lauren Rott, whose first date with her fiancé involved dancing … Read More

On Sunday evening, Angie and I attended a “silent rave” in Union Square Park, which is essentially a few hundred people dancing wildly to the music on their iPods. So if you’re walking by and happen to see this, it looks like a few hundred crazies rocking out to no music. And I mean, rocking out – arms flailing, rave-type stuff. It sounded like a lot of fun and another chance to act like a kid again (and Angie loves stupid fun just as much as I do) so we hopped on the idea.

It was crazier than I … Read More

Before The Secret, there was "The One." To be exact, there was a self-help bestseller titled Calling in "the One": 7 Weeks To Attract the Love of Your Life.

Seven weeks? I was dubious—but intrigued. I had never before read this type of book; never gone "new age" enough to actually purchase one. But I read my horoscope, I like sending out good vibes, and I'm all about the Golden Rule.

I saw no compelling reason why my one true love shouldn't be summoned like the book promised. Like so many single, hopeful romantics out … Read More

I was in college the night I met him. And even after all these years, the thing I remember most is the unexpected, very physical shiver that immediately ran up my spine when he looked at me. He's It, that shiver said.

We talked, we flirted, we had our first date two days later. I fell hard. I loved that he was sweet, but not saccharine. I loved that he was Jewish, but not too Jewish. I loved that he was a fan of Hot Tamales, the candy I ate by the truckload back then. And (OK, call me … Read More