I recently did a survey on a group of black women regarding their reasons for not dating men who are not of color. Through my findings it seems as though black women aren't actually opposed to dating outside of their race. Part of the dilemma lies in women of color thinking that men outside of their race won't be attracted to them.
Can someone please tell me what the hell is wrong with our society? We allow children to watch violent movies and play even more violent video games, but we don’t give them healthy role models for sexual activity.
It's true that having gays in the military is not a novel concept. Israel, for one, allows open homosexuality in the military, and some military intelligence units are known to have large numbers of gay soldiers. And history is replete with examples of homosexuality and military service. In Plato's Symposium, Phaedras writes that "no man is such a craven that the influence of Love cannot inspire him with a courage that makes him equal to the bravest born." The idea was that a soldier would fight more strongly for someone they were in love with than someone they weren't. Which, when you think about it, explains why all the Spartans in "300" ran around in loincloths. (And yes, I quoted Plato… gotta use that expensive liberal arts education for something…)
Across the country couples face the tough decision: to marry or not to marry. But in California that decision is being left up to a judge. A federal judge can't order that people change their minds, however. No court can. Essentially, who is responsible for making important decisions about marriage?
Coming from a divorced family, I have spent my life questioning the idea of a life-long commitment. Most of the adults I know have been divorced at least once, and of the couples who are still married, most of them (along with their kids) appear miserable. And so, while I would love to find a companion whose company I will enjoy "'til death do us part," I've learned from observation that this just might not be a realistic goal. And is it so horrible to think that maybe we weren't supposed to spend our entire lives with one person? Is traditional marriage the best—or only—way? Caitlin Flanagan, author of the Time article "Is There Hope for the American Marriage?" thinks so. But I just don't agree with the lady who claims that there is "no other single force causing as much measurable hardship and human misery in this country as the collapse of marriage."
In the cover story for this week's Time magazine, Caitlin Flanagan writes about what she deems the assault of marriage and the loss of the American ideal. Lately, we've been hearing other views—that the tumultuous economic times would inspire searches for committed relationships.
While we know our society is ripe with stereotypes, and it would be naive and unrealistic to think its inhabitants don't carry those around. Rather, we just hope for a day when a blogger like Funky Brown Chick won't have to write a list titled How To Date A Black Woman to quiet all those who incessantly ask her. 1.) Ask her out. 2.) Don't pretend you're black. 3.) Be truthful. 4.) Be open-minded. 5.) See her as a woman first.
Sick of taffeta bridesmaids gowns? In her new book, author Doree Lewak explains why women obsess over why we're not married yet - and how to stop fretting.
What is a metrosexual? That's What He Said takes to the street and asks guys what they think of the metrosexual movement.
