Women like Betty White know that aging doesn't have to be something we dread. Yes, body parts may sag, faces may wrinkle and hairs may turn white, but getting older promises much more than a change in appearance—it promises high sexual satisfaction, too.
I hate rules. I hate telling women to follow them. I like offering mindful 'dos' and 'don'ts' that women can use as guidelines to make sure they are on track with acting like one half of a considerate, respectful, loving, and caring whole. Rules, on the other hand, seem stifling and repressing to a woman’s individuality. I think, however, that the following rule is very empowering and actually helps relieve women of stifling insecurities and releases repressed sexual urges. So I will allow myself to suggest it. Here it is:
It seems like everyone is talking about female libido these days. Apparently there is a rumor going around that a lot of women have low sexual desire or low libido. I have to be honest: I am not sold on this latest "epidemic." The women I work with in my sensuality and intimacy coaching practice really don't have low sexual desire. What they really are struggling with is what I would call "desire untapped." Now that is language I can wrap my libido around ... because that's what I once was — a woman who didn't understand my own sexual desire. I knew that I had it, but it felt more like a simmering pot — close to boil, but not quite. And I wanted to boil, as so many of us do. I wanted to feel like those women look in Sex And The City, but I wasn't them. I would never be them. I was a mid-life Riverdale housewife and a fertility advocate. I had to find my own way, and I did. But along the way I learned a lot about how women tick.
Who doesn't want a healthy and satisfying sex life? And yet, a substantial and growing percentage of people struggle with low libido and sexual dysfunction issues. Overcoming this challenge in order to benefit from the many emotional and physical benefits of lovemaking should be on the top of your list when you consider that hundreds of major medical studies correlate an active sex life with a longer life, better heart health, a healthier immune response, reduction in chronic pain symptoms, lower rates of depression and even protection against some cancers.
Women are redefining the definition of orgasm into something completely female. Women are redefining orgasm in a brand new way for themselves. They are no longer willing to be held hostage to definitions of orgasm that follow the male model of erection and ejaculation. Female orgasm has so many different expressions, and women who buy into this masculine model that is all about the clitoral climax often find themselves feeling somehow dysfunctional and sexually broken. This can not only destroy their sexuality, but can also permeate other meaningful aspects of their relationships.
People might associate college life with pizza and promiscuity, but according to a paper published in the Journal of Personality, students would rather receive an ego boost (from compliments and good grades) than have sex. Incidentally, ego boosts also trump favorite foods, which actually makes sense considering how closely hunger and sexual compulsions are compared.
Jenny dressed up in her sexy red mini dress, stylish very high heels, and made sensual, inviting remarks to Tom all through their romantic dinner date. He even appeared to respond with seductive words and sensual touch. But that only lasted at the restaurant. When they got home, the mood somehow shifted. He went directly to his computer to "finish some business he had forgotten he needed to do." Jenny waited patiently, coaxing him to "Come to bed." Finally and reluctantlhy, he closed his computer, washed up and joiner her in the bed
A recent study out of The University of Texas at Austin and Baylor College of Medicine studied 200 women with sexual arousal complaints (low sexual desire, low sexual arousal and problems with orgasm). Out of the 200, 50 were administered placebos in place of libido-inducing medicine. Surprisingly, the scientists found that a third of those taking the placebo marked an increase in sexual arousal and all-around better sexual experiences with more stimulation within four weeks. Needless to say, none of the women's partners were counseled on better sex tips.
Dr Michelle Gannon, Psychologist, Relationship Expert and Founder of Marriage Prep 101 shares 10 tips to help if you are too tired for sex.
Spring fever is a real and researched fact. Over thousands and thousands of years, our bodies have innately tuned themselves into the natural rhythms of Mother Nature. There are many other subtle, built-into-your-hardwiring cues that put the pedal to the metal and gets your engine revving.
Being asexual does not mean that I have no appreciation at all for what is physically beautiful or aesthetically appealing in others. In the past, I have often tried to imagine myself with the people that I have shown some kind of interest in, but I realized in retrospect that this "attraction" was never more than friendly or purely appreciative. I can certainly admire the looks of an attractive person, but I feel no sexual or romantic desire for them.
