sexual advice
How to hold off on doing the deed, at least tonight.
"I would really like to invite you up but...
... I get really, really, really, really attached to someone after we sleep together. Really attached."
... I am at present an impenetrable fortress of Spanx."
... I'm not ready to tell you about my herpes status."
... I'm not ready to be disappointed by what appears to be your smaller than average member."
Have you been in this situation before? You're not a prude, but sometimes there are any number of reasons why you're not willing or able to go for the deed on a particular night. And maybe it's a good thing. Read More
Talking dirty was just the right spice for one couple's sex life.
It was several years into my current relationship when sex started becoming a mundane activity that was scheduled rather than spontaneous they way it used to be. Quite frankly sex had become about as exciting as chopping broccoli. That all changed one night when I heard something at the beginning of our normal ritualistic once-a-week sex that perked up my ears and libido.
Any talking we had ever done during sex was more or less directional or something along the lines of "is that it, baby?" or "I can't do this with the cat in the room!" We just did … Read More
You're not in high school anymore: Sex education doesn't mean learning how to roll a condom onto a cucumber, and experimentation shouldn't be an apology-filled romp in your parents' basement. Hot, helpful instruction exists that can assist you with everything from tantric lovemaking to anal sex. Whether you want live Q&A or a private lesson with your DVD player, our sexperts have picks that will get you hot for teacher.
Great foreplay tips: help him become a seduction expert.
It's one of the great sex myths: Women want foreplay; men just want play. But according to an ABC News poll, 80% of both men and women say they have "the right amount" of foreplay in their sex lives. Not only that, a study conducted at the University of New Brunswick indicates that men want more foreplay than they're having.
"Men do not hold exclusive franchise rights on goal-oriented sex," writes Susan Crain Bakos in her book What Men Really Want: Straight Talk from Men about … Read More
What your low libido might mean, and what you can do to fix it.
We hear lots about male sex drive. They either want a lot of sex, or they need Viagra® or some other type of "enhancer" to start things up. And it's no secret that as men get a bit older, they may need to use some sort of supplement to help things along.
Women often have issues with sex drive too, but the problem is often chalked up to women simply not being as sexually driven as men. Unfortunately, that's just not true. Women also have a deep need and desire for sex.
There are some things that will reduce the female … Read More
Do guys enjoy giving you pleasure? Read on to find out.
It's hard not to feel guilty when they're down there for a long time, isn't it? Not that we're not enjoying it. But how do you know if getting you off is turning him on or if he's just taking one for the team? We asked men: "What do you think about going down?" "Love it! All day. It's the best. It's all power." --John, 36, Actor "It's cool, till you get the lock jaw, then you just want it to end." --John, 32, Professor "Gotta give some if you wanna get some." --Adam, 28, Carpenter … Read More
Are guys turned on or threatened by the most famous of sex toys?
Vibrators: They hold a special place in our hearts and in our night stands. But is your man intimidated by your battery-powered best friend or eager to bring it in for a threesome? We asked men: "What do you think about vibrators?"
"Hot. Can I watch?" --John, 32, Professor
"I'm jealous. It's hard to compete with a battery-powered machine." --Adam, 28, Carpenter
"Anytime is the right time" --Joe, 36, Attorney
"They have their time and their place. It's ok for external use during sex, but I don't want it to replace me." --Andy, 32, Police officer
"I've never used one … Read More
The polite way to go about having a one-night stand.
The morning sun shines through the window. You yawn sleepily, stretching your arms above your head. Rolling over, fluffing the pillow, your eyes open and you find yourself face-to-face with the friend of a friend of a friend you met at last night's party.
Now what?
Be honest
Let's rewind to the beginning of the evening. Between the drinks and dances—but prior to heading back to someone's bed—one of you should clarify expectations. If all you want is a one-night stand, that's fine, but be upfront. If you want more, it's a good idea to bring that up, too. If you utter … Read More
Do guys think menstrual sex is gross or just fine?
Women bleed for a week each month and yet somehow, we've been branded the more squeamish sex. Go figure. But while we've been on intimate terms with menstruation since we were 12, men aren't always used to getting so up close and personal. So when we have our "monthly visitor," can we count on our guys to help us entertain? We asked men: "What do you think about having sex during a woman's period?"
"With a condom, I say fine. No babies." --John, 32, Professor
"If I'm drunk, whatever." --Adam, 28, Carpenter
"I have absolutely no problem with it, and … Read More
Using Tantric sex principles one can use sex to increase closeness.
Tantra, an ancient Sanskrit word, means to "weave" or "expand." It is a form of yoga, which means to "join." To join and expand, to come together, weaving our energies, for the purpose of opening up to the entire universe. Shaped variously by Hindu and Buddhist traditions, sometimes constricted by Confucianism, Tantra in its widest meaning describes an approach to living that links the physical universe to the cosmic whole.
Sexuality, the most physical and intimate of human interactions, is seen a sacred activity, a continual re-enactment of the original creation of the universe. The First One, separating from Itself … Read More
