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SEX EDUCATION

Another 9 Things I Wish I Learned In Sex Ed—Part 3 of 4 [EXPERT]

Another 9 Things I Wish I Learned In Sex Ed—Part 3 of 4 [EXPERT]

Other than sex ed from The Silent Scream, what else is there to learn about sex and sexuality?

I was probably 11 or 12 when I watched a video called “The Silent Scream” in primary school (or grade school in the U.S.). It is a documentary video which depicts the abortion process via ultrasound and shows an abortion taking place in the uterus. During the abortion process, the presenter dramatically paused the video as the 11-week fetus opens its mouth in the uterus – in what appeared to be an outcry of pain and discomfort – and went, “There, there, there is the silent scream!”

9 More Things I Wish I Learned In Sex Ed—Part 2 of 4 [EXPERT]

9 More Things I Wish I Learned In Sex Ed—Part 2 of 4 [EXPERT]

What does this sexologist wish she learned about sexuality besides menstruation growing up?

The only sexuality education I received in secondary school (or high school in the U.S.) was in the form of annual school talks presented by pharmaceutical companies promoting sanitary pads or tampons (depending where they were from). The boys got to first jeer at us, as they went out to play in the sun. We, the young ladies, had the burden of listening to instruction on menstruation and the need to clean up after ourselves.

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What do you wish you would have learned in sex ed?

9 Things I Wish I Had Learned In Sex Ed [EXPERT]

What might a sexologist wish she learned about sex and sexuality growing up?

Growing up in a relatively typical Chinese family in Singapore, I received very little sexuality education. Let me give you the context: I did not know that what I had "down there" was called the vulva even though I had the "bits." I did not attempt to pronounce the word penis until I was 26, and as if that by itself was not awkward enough, I was then told that I said it wrong! Here are nine things that I wish I had learned in sex-ed as a teenager...

The Power Of Pillow Talk [EXPERT]
Don't underestimate the beauty of words while you're making love!

The Power Of Pillow Talk [EXPERT]

10 different categories of erotic talk that can do wonders to enhance your lovemaking experience!

What’s the first thing that comes to mind when you hear the phrase “erotic talk”? Well, if you said, “talking dirty”, your answer is the one I most often receive whenever I pose that question. In fact, in a survey I conducted of 300 men and women, that was precisely the most popular response. Yet, as I explain in my book The Fine Art of Erotic Talk (Bantam/Random House), explicit sex talk is just one aspect of the powerful role that words can play in our sex lives.

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Safe sex is vastly underrated.

"I Don't Care How Drunk You Are: Use A Friggin' Condom!"

Study says that condom use (or non-use) has nothing to do with drunkenness. So no more excuses.

One would think that, after years of condom-on-banana sex ed in our schools, we'd finally get that condom use is kind of a smart idea. And when I say "kind of," I really mean "just wrap it up, you idiots."

How to communicate about sexuality with children?

How to communicate about sexuality with children?

Can I talk to a child about sexuality? Curiosity about sexuality is a natural part of growing up.

Can I talk to a child about sexuality? Curiosity about sexuality is a natural part of growing up. Children have the right to receive information, support and positive messages about sexuality, relationships and reproductive health. As a provider, you can assist a child by giving information about sexuality that is clear, correct and positive. It is best for this information to come from the adults in their life that they know and trust.

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New York Schools Will Require Sex Ed For First Time In 20 Years

One of the lessons will be how to put on and use a condom.

New York City schools will be required to have sex-education classes for middle and high school students this year. They will include lessons on using a condom, city officials say. The classes mark the first time in almost two decades the city will require sex-education classes.

Let's talk about sex.

New Survey: Americans More Informed About Sex Than They Think

When in comes to sex, Americans actually do know what they are talking about.

In the twenty years since Salt-n-Pepper released their 1991 single "Let's Talk About Sex" it seems that Americans have in fact been doing just that: talking about sex—about how it is, and how it could be, how it was, and of course, how it should be! All that talking seems to have paid off! According to a new survey conducted by Zestra and YourTango.com, when asked to answer questions about female pleasure and the health benefits of sex, the majority of men and women responded correctly. Way to go!

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Pop Culture Vs The Pulpit: How I Decided Premarital Sex Was Wrong

After a lifetime of competing messages about premarital sex I embraced my faith and decided to wait.

As a teenager, I had secretly assumed that many of these restrictions were out-dated and unnecessary, thus I decided to try and intellectually prove that premarital sex fit into that category. Over a period of months, whenever I had free time I would dive into the index of my Bible and search for all the verses that said anything at all about sex. I read over them carefully, searching for a loophole—some fact, some story, some statement that I could pluck up and use as my justification.